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PARENTAL ALIENATION

Partner’s Jealousy Towards Children

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When your partner is jealous of your children, it can create tension and strain in your relationship. Jealousy in this context may stem from various factors, such as feeling neglected or insecure about their place in your life. It’s important to address these feelings and work through them together in order to maintain a healthy and harmonious family dynamic. Here are some steps you can take:

  1. Communication: Open and honest communication is crucial in any relationship. Encourage your partner to express their feelings and concerns about the situation. Be attentive, empathetic, and understanding when they share their perspective. Avoid being defensive and try to see things from their point of view.
  2. Reassurance: Assure your partner that your love for them has not diminished because of your children. Emphasize that your relationship with your children and your relationship with your partner are separate but equally important. Offer reassurances about your commitment to the relationship and your willingness to work through any challenges together.
  3. Quality time: Dedicate quality time to your partner to nurture your connection and demonstrate that they hold a special place in your life. Plan activities or dates that allow you to focus on each other without distractions from the children. This can help alleviate any feelings of neglect and reinforce the bond between you.
  4. Inclusion: Encourage your partner to develop a positive relationship with your children. Facilitate opportunities for them to spend time together and get to know each other better. This can help your partner feel more integrated into the family unit and reduce any feelings of exclusion or rivalry.
  5. Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and expectations regarding your time and attention. It’s important to find a balance between your responsibilities as a parent and your role as a partner. Make sure both your partner and children understand and respect these boundaries, and communicate them openly.
  6. Seek professional help if needed: If the jealousy and tension persist despite your efforts, consider seeking the guidance of a couples therapist or counselor. A professional can provide unbiased support and strategies tailored to your specific situation.

Remember, building and maintaining a healthy relationship requires ongoing effort and understanding. By addressing the issue of jealousy together, you can work towards a more harmonious and loving environment for everyone involved.

 

 © Linda C J Turner

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Linda C J Turner

Linda Turner is a compassionate and dedicated trauma therapist with a deep commitment to helping individuals overcome the lasting effects of trauma and Parental Alienation. With 5 years of experience in the mental health field, and over 20 years experience with Parental Alienation Linda provides a safe and supportive space for clients to heal, grow, and reclaim their lives. Lindas therapeutic approach combines evidence-based interventions with a genuine and empathetic presence to empower individuals on their healing journey.

Education and Credentials:

Linda Turner studied to be a therapist whilst living in France and qualified in

  • Counseling Skills Diploma completed with 100% Distinction.
  • NLP Practitioner Course completed with 95% Distinction
  • Advanced CBT Diploma
  • Hypnosis Masters Diploma
  • Life Coaching Diploma
  • Emotional Intelligence Diploma

And  specializies in trauma-focused therapy.  Throughout her educational and own personal  journey, she gained a comprehensive understanding of trauma’s complex impacts and acquired the necessary skills to facilitate healing and resilience in clients.

Professional Experience:

Linda Turner has gained valuable experience in diverse settings, including community mental health support, trauma-focused organizations NAAP – National Association of Alienated Parents

and is a member or the PASG – Parental Alienation Study Group.She has worked with a broad range of clients helping them navigate through various types of trauma, such as interpersonal violence, childhood abuse, accidents, and natural disasters and COVID

Areas of Expertise:

As a trauma therapist,Linda specializes in the following areas:

  1. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): she is proficient in assessing and treating individuals struggling with PTSD, utilizing evidence-based interventions to alleviate symptoms and promote recovery.
  2. Complex Trauma and Childhood Abuse: Linda has extensive experience working with individuals who have experienced long-term or repeated trauma, including childhood abuse, neglect, and attachment-related issues.
  3. Relationship Trauma: She provides support to individuals and couples who have experienced trauma within their relationships, helping them rebuild trust, establish healthy boundaries, and foster connection.
  4. Cultural Sensitivity: Linda is deeply committed to providing trauma therapy that is sensitive to diverse cultural backgrounds and identities. She recognizes the importance of understanding the unique intersections of culture, identity, and trauma to ensure clients receive culturally competent care.

Approach to Therapy:

Lindas therapeutic approach is grounded in trauma-informed care, empathy, and collaboration. She creates a safe and non-judgmental space where clients feel heard, validated, and empowered to share their experiences. Linda integrates various evidence-based modalities, such as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and mindfulness techniques, tailoring the treatment to meet each client’s specific needs and goals.

Contributions to the Field:

In addition to her clinical work, Linda actively engages in ongoing professional development, staying up-to-date with the latest research and advancements in trauma therapy. She is passionate about advocacy, community education, and reducing the stigma surrounding mental health and trauma. Linda has conducted workshops, given presentations, sharing her expertise and contributing to the field’s growth.

With her empathetic nature, clinical expertise, and commitment to empowering individuals, Linda continues to make a significant impact on the lives of trauma survivors. She guides clients towards healing, resilience, and the ability to create a meaningful and fulfilling life beyond trauma.

Linda – Always By Your Side

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Recovering from Emotional Abuse?

Have you struggled with experiences of Emotional Abuse & Manipulation in your life?

Are these experiences still gnawing at you…negatively affecting your self-worth, wellbeing & relationships?

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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy THERAPY EMDR

The Best Therapy

The best therapy for recovery from a relationship with a psychopath can vary depending on individual needs and preferences. Here are some therapeutic approaches that are commonly used and have shown effectiveness in helping survivors of psychopathic abuse:

  1. Trauma-focused therapy: This type of therapy, such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) or Trauma-focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT), can help survivors process and heal from the traumatic experiences associated with the psychopathic relationship. It focuses on reducing distressing symptoms, addressing negative beliefs, and promoting emotional healing.
  2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT can be beneficial in challenging distorted thoughts and beliefs that may have been instilled by the psychopath. It helps individuals identify and change negative thinking patterns, develop healthier coping strategies, and build resilience.
  3. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): DBT combines elements of cognitive-behavioral techniques with mindfulness practices. It can be helpful in managing intense emotions, improving interpersonal skills, and promoting self-acceptance and self-compassion.
  4. Supportive therapy: Supportive therapy provides a safe and non-judgmental space to process emotions, gain validation, and receive support from a therapist. It focuses on fostering a therapeutic alliance and providing emotional support during the healing process.
  5. Group therapy or support groups: Participating in group therapy or support groups specifically for survivors of psychopathic relationships can provide a sense of community, understanding, and validation. It allows individuals to connect with others who have had similar experiences, share insights, and learn from one another.
  6. Mindfulness and self-care practices: Incorporating mindfulness techniques and self-care practices, such as meditation, breathing exercises, journaling, and engaging in activities that promote self-nurturing and relaxation, can be valuable in managing stress, grounding oneself, and promoting overall well-being.

It is important to consult with a qualified mental health professional to determine the most appropriate therapy for your specific needs. They can conduct an assessment and guide you in selecting the therapeutic approach that aligns with your goals and helps you on your path to recovery.

 © Linda C J Turner

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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy SELF HELP THERAPY

Recovering

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Recovering from a relationship with a psychopath can be a challenging and complex process. Here are some important steps to consider on the path to recovery:

  1. Acknowledge and validate your experience: Recognize and accept that you were involved in a relationship with a psychopath. Understand that the manipulation and abuse you experienced were not your fault, and it is normal to have mixed emotions and feelings of confusion.
  2. Seek professional support: Consider working with a therapist or counselor who specializes in trauma, abuse, or personality disorders. They can provide a safe space for you to process your experiences, help you heal from emotional wounds, and provide guidance throughout your recovery journey.
  3. Establish no-contact or low-contact: If possible, minimize or cut off contact with the psychopath. This includes blocking their phone number, avoiding places you are likely to encounter them, and disengaging from any communication or interaction. No-contact or low-contact is crucial to protect yourself from further manipulation and harm.
  4. Educate yourself: Learn about psychopathy and manipulative tactics to better understand the dynamics of your relationship. This knowledge can help you validate your experiences, gain insight into the psychopath’s behaviors, and aid in your healing process.
  5. Rebuild your self-esteem: A psychopathic relationship can severely damage your self-esteem and sense of self-worth. Focus on rebuilding your self-esteem by engaging in self-care activities, practicing self-compassion, and surrounding yourself with supportive and positive people.
  6. Establish a strong support network: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or support groups who can provide emotional support and understanding. Connecting with others who have experienced similar situations can be particularly helpful in feeling less alone and gaining validation.
  7. Practice self-care: Prioritize your physical and emotional well-being. Engage in activities that bring you joy, relaxation, and fulfillment. This may include exercise, hobbies, meditation, journaling, or spending time in nature.
  8. Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries in your relationships and interactions with others. Learn to recognize and assertively communicate your needs and limits. Setting boundaries will help you protect yourself from future toxic relationships.
  9. Give yourself time to heal: Recovery from a psychopathic relationship takes time. Be patient and gentle with yourself. Healing is a gradual process, and everyone’s journey is unique. Allow yourself to experience a range of emotions and give yourself permission to heal at your own pace.

Remember, recovery from a psychopathic relationship is possible. With professional support, self-care, and a strong support network, you can rebuild your life and move forward towards a healthier and happier future.

 © Linda C J Turner

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Antisocial Personality Disorder Borderline Personality Disorder Delusional Disorder DESTRUCTIVE PSYCHOLOGICAL DISORDER PERSONALITY DISORDERS

Lack of genuine emotional expression

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Examples of a lack of genuine emotional expression, which can be associated with psychopathic traits, include:

  1. Inappropriate emotional response: A person with psychopathic traits may exhibit inappropriate emotional reactions to situations. For example, they may display laughter or amusement in response to something tragic or distressing, showing a lack of empathy or understanding of appropriate emotional expressions.
  2. Superficial or fleeting emotional displays: Psychopaths may display brief or superficial emotional reactions that quickly fade away. Their emotional expressions may not match the intensity or duration of the situation. For instance, they may show momentary anger or sadness but quickly revert to a neutral or unaffected state.
  3. Limited emotional range: Psychopaths often exhibit a restricted range of emotions. They may struggle to genuinely experience a wide range of emotions, such as joy, sadness, fear, or guilt. Their emotional responses may appear shallow or detached.
  4. Incongruent emotional expressions: Psychopaths may display emotional expressions that seem incongruent with the circumstances or interactions. For instance, they may smile or appear happy in situations that typically elicit concern or sadness.
  5. Lack of empathy cues: Psychopaths may struggle to display empathetic cues in their facial expressions, such as mirroring others’ emotions or showing concern in response to someone else’s distress. Their emotional detachment can be apparent in their lack of appropriate empathy cues.

 © Linda C J Turner

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Antisocial Personality Disorder Borderline Personality Disorder Delusional Disorder DESTRUCTIVE PSYCHOLOGICAL DISORDER NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) PERSONALITY DISORDERS

The Great Pretender

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Psychopaths are often described as “great pretenders” because of their ability to convincingly mask their true nature and blend into social settings. They can present themselves as charming, charismatic, and even empathetic, despite lacking genuine emotional connections. Here are a few reasons why psychopaths are often referred to as “great pretenders”:

  1. Masking their true intentions: Psychopaths are skilled at concealing their true motives and intentions. They can adopt personas that align with what others expect or desire, allowing them to gain trust and manipulate those around them.
  2. Adapting to social norms: Psychopaths are observant and quick to identify societal norms, values, and expectations. They can mimic appropriate behaviors and responses to fit in seamlessly, making it difficult for others to recognize their underlying psychopathic traits.
  3. Charismatic and engaging demeanor: Psychopaths often possess an inherent charm and charisma. They can captivate others with their confident and engaging presence, which helps them create positive impressions and establish rapport.
  4. Mimicking emotions: Psychopaths may mimic emotions to appear empathetic and relatable. They can study and imitate emotional expressions, using them strategically to manipulate and deceive others. However, their emotions are often shallow and lacking in genuine depth.
  5. Hiding their true nature: Psychopaths are skilled at maintaining a facade and hiding their true selves. They may strategically select the aspects of their personality they reveal to others, hiding their psychopathic tendencies beneath a carefully constructed image.

It is important to be cautious and recognize that psychopaths’ pretense can be manipulative and harmful. Understanding their ability to mimic and deceive is essential for protecting oneself from potential exploitation or harm. If you suspect someone may be a psychopath, it is advisable to seek professional guidance and support to navigate the situation effectively.

 © Linda C J Turner

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Antisocial Personality Disorder Borderline Personality Disorder Coercive Control coercive control Delusional Disorder DESTRUCTIVE PSYCHOLOGICAL DISORDER EMOTIONAL ABUSE NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) PERSONALITY DISORDERS

Facing the truth

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It is not uncommon for partners of psychopaths to have difficulty facing or accepting the truth about their partner’s psychopathic traits or behavior. There can be various reasons for this reluctance:

  1. Emotional attachment: The partner may have developed strong emotional bonds and attachments to the psychopath, which can make it challenging to accept or acknowledge the negative aspects of their personality.
  2. Cognitive dissonance: Cognitive dissonance refers to the psychological discomfort experienced when holding conflicting beliefs or perceptions. The partner may struggle to reconcile the positive aspects they see in the psychopath with the negative behaviors or traits they may witness or suspect.
  3. Manipulation and deception: Psychopaths are often skilled manipulators who can deceive their partners and create a false image or facade. The partner may be under the influence of the psychopath’s manipulative tactics, making it difficult for them to see through the deception or recognize the truth.
  4. Fear and intimidation: Psychopaths can exhibit controlling and intimidating behaviors, which can instill fear in their partners. The fear of retaliation or the consequences of confronting the psychopath may discourage the partner from facing the truth.
  5. Dependency and isolation: Psychopaths may intentionally create dependency and isolation within their relationships, making it harder for their partners to seek support or gain an outside perspective. The partner may feel trapped or helpless, unable to break free from the influence of the psychopath.

It is important to approach these situations with empathy and understanding. Encouraging the partner to seek professional help, such as therapy or counseling, can provide them with the support and tools necessary to navigate their relationship and make informed decisions about their well-being.

 © Linda C J Turner

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Divide and conquer between families

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Divide and conquer tactics can unfortunately be employed in situations involving families, often leading to strained relationships and conflicts. These tactics can be used by individuals who seek to manipulate or control the dynamics within a family unit. Here are a few examples:

  1. Spreading misinformation: By spreading false or misleading information about family members, an individual may try to create divisions and mistrust among family members. This can lead to conflicts, misunderstandings, and strained relationships.
  2. Favoritism and manipulation: An individual may engage in favoritism, showing excessive attention or support to one family member while undermining or devaluing others. This can create a sense of competition or animosity among family members, leading to division and conflict.
  3. Secret-keeping and exclusion: By intentionally excluding certain family members from important information or events, an individual can create a sense of isolation and alienation. This can cause divisions within the family and foster feelings of resentment and distrust.
  4. Playing family members against each other: Manipulative individuals may exploit existing disagreements or conflicts within a family, exacerbating tensions and encouraging further division. They may take advantage of unresolved issues or past grievances to fuel conflicts and keep family members at odds with one another.
  5. Undermining communication and unity: By discouraging open and honest communication within the family, an individual can create barriers to understanding and resolution. They may spread rumors or instigate arguments to prevent family members from coming together and finding common ground.

It is crucial for family members to be aware of these tactics and work towards fostering healthy communication, empathy, and cooperation. Building trust, promoting open dialogue, and seeking professional help, such as family therapy, can be beneficial in addressing conflicts and healing familial divisions.

 © Linda C J Turner

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“divide and conquer”

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It is not uncommon for individuals with manipulative tendencies, including psychopaths, to try to create antagonisms or distance among the people they deceive. This tactic is known as “divide and conquer” and is aimed at preventing their victims from comparing notes and discovering the lies or manipulations they have employed.

By creating conflicts or fostering misunderstandings between the people they deceive, psychopaths can maintain control over the situation and avoid being exposed. They may spread false information, instigate conflicts, or manipulate emotions to keep their victims isolated and unaware of the truth.

Psychopaths are skilled at manipulating others and exploiting their vulnerabilities. Creating divisions and preventing open communication among the people they deceive is a way for them to continue their deceptive behavior without being discovered.

It’s important to note that not all individuals who exhibit manipulative tendencies or engage in such tactics are psychopaths. Other personality disorders or manipulative behaviors can also lead to similar actions. If you suspect that someone may be using these tactics, it’s essential to maintain open communication and seek support from trusted individuals or professionals who can provide guidance and assistance.

 © Linda C J Turner