Parental Alienation PA


…that negative feelings are not true feelings at all; rather,
they are your thoughts about something, based always on
the previous experience of yourself and others.
You will not find Truth in your past data, only past data
that is based on other past data that is based on other
past data, and so forth.  Forget your “past experience”
and look directly at the experience you are having
Right Here, Right Now.
There is your Truth.

Footprints xoxo

Source: Footprints xoxo


Footprints xoxo

Source: Footprints xoxo


The Obituary-Invisible Daughters

Source: The Obituary-Invisible Daughters


Child outcomes after parental separation: variations by contact and court involvement

This report presents findings from the Millennium Cohort Study (MCS). It describes variations in contact between children and non-resident parents, and use of court for settling contact or financial arrangements. The report also explores gaps in different child outcomes by their parents’ marital status and whether post-separation contact with non-resident parents is associated with children’s outcomes at age 11.


Thought Provoking Quotes

1) “Character is doing the right thing when nobody’s looking.” — J.C. Watts

2) “Not all those who wander are lost.” — J.R. R. Tolkein

3) “There is no substitute for hard work.” — Thomas Edison

4) “Both optimists and pessimists contribute to our society. The optimist invents the airplane, and the pessimist the parachute.” — Gil Stein

5) “The distance is nothing; it’s only the first step that is difficult.” — Marquise du Deffand

6) “It doesn’t matter if I don’t succeed in something. What matters is if I learn from my mistakes.” — Linda Evans

7) “If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” — Maya Angelou

8) “He that is good for making excuses, is seldom good for anything else.” — Benjamin Franklin

9) The grand essentials of happiness are: something to do, something to love, and something to hope for.” — Allan K Chalmers

10) “Well done is better than well said.” — Benjamin Franklin

11) “The worst loneliness is not to be comfortable with yourself.” — Mark Twain

12) “People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they are not on your road, doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.” — Dalai Lama

13) “Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something.” — Plato

14) “If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” — Mark Twain

15) “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” — Mark Twain

16) “Don’t go around saying the world owes you something. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.” — Mark Twain

17) “The dictionary is the only place where success comes before work.” — Mark Twain

18) “The odds of hitting your target go up dramatically when you aim at it.” — Mal Pancoast

19) “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” — Thomas Edison

20) “Success if getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.” — Dale Carnegie

21) “Nobody can bring you peace but yourself.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

22) “What you do speaks so loud, that I cannot hear what you say.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

23) “For every minute you remain angry, you give up 60 seconds of peace of mind.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

24) “What lies behind us, and what lies before us, are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

25) “To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

26) “Try and fail, but don’t fail to try.” — Stephen Kaggwa

27) “The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.” — Eriksson

28) “To be great, is to be misunderstood.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

29) “The only person you are destined to become, is the person you decide to be.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

30) “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else, is the greatest accomplishment.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

31) “Every saint has a past. Every sinner has a future.” — Oscar Wilde

32) “Always forgive your enemies, nothing annoys them so much.” — Oscar Wilde

33) “Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.” — Oscar Wilde

34) “I have the simplest of tastes. I am always satisfied with the best.” — Oscar Wilde

35) “We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking up at the stars.” — Oscar Wilde

36) “To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” — Oscar Wilde

37) “There is no beauty without some strangeness.” — Edgar Allen Poe

38) “Ignorance more frequently begets confidence than does knowledge.” — Charles Darwin

39) “All that we see or seem is but a scream within a scream.” — Edgar Allen Poe

40) “I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” — Carl Jung

41) “The mind is everything. What you think, you become.” — Buddha

42) “Don’t make a permanent decision for a temporary emotion.” — unknown

43) “Life is too short to spend another day at war with yourself.” — Confucius

44) “Nothing haunts us like the things we don’t say.” — Mitch Albom

45) “We ARE our choices.” — J.P. Sartre

46) “Most people would learn from their mistakes, if they weren’t so busy denying them.” — Harold J. Smith

47) “If the simple things in life don’t put a smile on your face, then you will never truly be happy.” — unknown

48) “Make is simple, but significant.” — Don Draper

49) “Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” — Confucius

50) “Forgiveness doesn’t mean you excuse the crime. It only means you are no longer willing to be the victim.” — Unknown

51) “I’m rarely bored alone; I am often bored in groups and crowds.” — Laurie Halgoe

52) “When you complain, you make yourself the victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” — Eckhart Tolle

53) “What is love? Love is absence of judgement.” — Dalai Lama

54) “Be a voice, not an echo.” — Albert Einstein

55) “Alice: This is impossible. The Mad Hatter: Only if you believe it is.”

56) “When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.” — Lao Tzu

57) “Do not wish for, what you will not work for.” — Unknown

58) “If it wasn’t for failures, I wouldn’t know what strength looked like.” — Byron Pulsifer

59) “The only way a relationship will last, is if you see your relationship as a place you go to give, and NOT a place you go to take.” — Anthony Robbins

60) “Shared joy is double joy; shared sorrow is half a sorrow.” — Swedish Proverb

61) “The joy in life is to be used for a purpose. I want to be all used up when I die.” — George Bernard Shaw

62) “No matter the time of day, no matter who is watching, and no matter what the situation, personal integrity doesn’t take a holiday.” — Byron Pulsifer

63) “He who angers you, conquers you.” — Elizabeth Kenny


Before you embark on a Journey of Revenge

Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it foregoes revenge and dares to forgive. edwin chapin


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Portrait of a sociopath

The manipulative con-man. The guy who lies to your face, even when he doesn’t have to. The child who tortures animals. The cold-blooded killer. Psychopaths are characterised by an absence of empathy and poor impulse control, with a total lack of conscience. About 1% of the total population can be defined as psychopaths, according to a detailed psychological profile checklist. They tend to be egocentric, callous, manipulative, deceptive, superficial, irresponsible and parasitic, even predatory.


What are the chances of a child being a psychopath if both parents are psychopaths?

There are two factors to keep in mind. There is the genetic predisposition that the child could inherit as well as the socializing and up-bringing the child receives. Both are complicated for the child in this case.

Is it guaranteed that the child will be a psychopath? No.

Is there a high probability that the child will either be born a psychopath or end up as a sociopath? Yes.


5 Possible Signs of Teenage Sociopathy

How many signs would you need from an adolescent to convince you that he or she could develop into a sociopathic adult? What specific incident or incidents would cause you to identify a teenager as a developing sociopath?

  1. Set fires, play with fire: Children will be children. Teens will be teens. Sometimes they exhibit behaviors that are just difficult for them to grow out of and that cause the family a lot of stress. But then there are other kids who simply enjoy watching things burn up; setting curtains, bedding, or other household items ablaze. Pyromania is often the technical term for individuals who enjoy the sight of fire. Some kids, very much like adults who struggle with addiction, are addicted to the act of setting things on fire. For these kids, the continual act of setting things on fire will require the professional attention of a mental health therapist. Just telling these kids to stop is often not enough.
  2. Harm pets: I have spoken to parents who were very disturbed by an incident involving their child and their pet (or a pet). Children who are developing sociopathic traits engage in harming pets, typically the family dog or cat. I have observed kids who intentionally harm animals out of sheer hatred, opposition to a rule or expectation of an adult, sexually inappropriate fantasies, or fun. Examples of harming pets include squeezing them too tightly in an attempt to choke the animal, physically assaulting the animal, being intimate with an animal, refusing to feed the animal, or teasing or taunting the animal.
  3. Steal: As stated above, kids often engage in behaviors and habits that are difficult to break. But some kids seem more interested in associating with peers who enjoy assaulting the public with inappropriate behaviors such as stealing. Examples of stealing include stealing money, food, or other items from the community, home, or school environment. Some kids may choose to steal from elderly people, other kids, or strangers in the community. Some kids may also plan how they will steal from someone and decide on what items to steal. The stealing behavior is calculative.
  4. Frequently lie: Pathological lying is a topic that I often discuss with clients and readers of my blogs and articles. It is a topic that many people find interesting. Sadly, there isn’t a lot of research on child and adolescent pathological lying. However, I do discuss this topic in more depth here. Lying behaviors in children and teens may include lying about homework, lying about others, or changing bits and pieces of a story to make part of it true and the other part a lie.
  5. Engage in calculating, manipulative behavior with the intent of harming others: Kids and teens who calculate and manipulate in order to harm others are often the most frightening. Why? Because they are cloaked with the innocence of their youth and are often given the benefit of the doubt by adults. Who would want to see their own child or adolescent as one with evil intent? But it is important for you to understand that some kids and teens are genetically “pre-wired” to possess manipulative and calculating behaviors and thought patterns. For example, juvenile sex offenders are often asked, in therapy, to discuss how they planned to sexually assault their victim. Some juvenile sex offenders have expressed that they “groomed” their victim (treated the victim kindly) before they offended them. These offenders knew that with kindness they would ultimately get what they wanted.