An incredible journey of self discovery

An epic 119 Kilometer pilgrimage over 5 days.

If  you start at Tui – you need two stamps per day to be eligible for the Compostela.

We walked and drove along the entire length of the most popular route, the Camino Portuguese and Spain.

The Camino is no longer a solitary, deserted path to enlightenment. Some 300,000 pilgrims walk it each year, usually on foot but also by bike, car and even horse. Everyone is on their own personal journey. It doesn’t matter how fast or slow you go, it’s not a race.

When you meet a fellow pilgrim along the Camino, you greet each other with a friendly “Buen Camino”, which literally means a “good road”

I would highly recommend walking the Camino to anyone who is on the road to recovery from Parental Alienation. I found the whole experience stimulating, invigorating, exhilarating, therapeutic and healing.

This is just the beginning of my journey, The New Me!!!!!!!!


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“Pilgrimage of Compostela”

The Camino de Santiago (LatinPeregrinatio Compostellana, “Pilgrimage of Compostela”; GalicianO Camiño de Santiago),[1] known in English as The Way of Saint James among other names,[2][3][4] is a network of pilgrims’ ways serving pilgrimage to the shrine of the apostle Saint James the Great in the cathedral of Santiago de Compostela in Galicia in northwestern Spain, where tradition has it that the remains of the saint are buried. Many follow its routes as a form of spiritual path or retreat for their spiritual growth. It is also popular with hiking and cycling enthusiasts and organized tour groups.

Thursday 5th October 2017

The Portuguese Way

Passes through different routes in Portugal (interior and coast) until it enters Galicia through Tui.


Saint James, Apostle, chosen among the first. You were the first to drink the Cup of the Master and you are the great protector of pilgrims; make us strong in faith and happy in hope on our pilgrim journey following the path of Christian life and sustain us so that we may finally reach the glory of God the Father. Amen.

Mass Times on the last 100km of the French Way from Sarria to Santiago


11 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists

Different rules apply when coping with people who have unhealthy narcissism. Here are 11 “Don’ts” in dealing with narcissists: Don’t take them at face value. Image is everything to narcissists. They work hard to present a facade of superiority…

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Burnout in Mental Health Professionals

As helping professionals, we are trusted with some of our clients’ deepest, darkest secrets. Each day, we are subjected to the heart-wrenching stories and the immensely difficult life situations of the individuals who come to us seeking change and relief. It is impossible for any helping professional to know what our clients will bring through our door. In this sense, the only constant in our line of work is vicissitude, or variance. Stories compounded by grief, loss, sadness, anger, anxiety, depression, hopelessness, and turmoil are not foreign to us as mental health professionals. Given how we are exposed to such types of stories and information on a day-to-day basis, it goes without saying that if we do not properly care for ourselves, we can become prone to many types of health issues. These can include burnout, compassion fatigue, heart issues (Schneider, 1984), depression and suicidal ideation (Schneider, 1984), compromised immune systems, headaches, stomach problems, and other

Source: Burnout in Mental Health Professionals


Therapy for Therapists: Coping with Compassion Fatigue

As clinicians, we all say it: ‘We must take care of ourselves.’ We empower our colleagues, patients and families by repeating this mantra to them in times of stress. But, too often, we forget to take our own advice. At some point, as humans, we therapists all fail to recognize our own limits. We take on another case, work another weekend, take another call, all under the premise that this workload is what we are built to do. But, what happens when we start to fall apart? Compassion Fatigue Compassion fatigue syndrome is a feeling of chronic stress, emotional exhaustion and tension often felt by therapists, counselors and anyone in the helping professions. It is common for clinicians to develop this syndrome at some point in their careers, given their close work with those experiencing and hearing stories of abuse, death and trauma. Central to this syndrome is a clinicians’ inability to engage in a productive therapeutic relationship with a patient (van Mol et al., 2015). This

Source: Therapy for Therapists: Coping with Compassion Fatigue


Personality Disorders


  • Personality trait
    • enduring patterns of behavior exhibited in a wide range of personal contexts
  • Personality disorder
    • pervasive, inflexible, extreme, maladaptive personality trait causing impaired functioning or subjective distress
    • ego syntonic
      • patient has limited awareness of disorder
    • course is usually stable by early adulthood
    • not usually diagnosed in children
Cluster A Personality Disorders
  • Characterization
    • “weird”
    • odd or eccentric
    • no meaningful social relationships
    • no psychosis
    • genetic association with schizophrenia
  • Types
    • paranoid
      • excessive distrust and suspiciousness
    • schizoid 
      • voluntary social withdrawal
        • content with social isolation (vs. avoidant)
      • limited emotional expression
    • schizotypal 
      • eccentric appearance
      • odd beliefs or magical thinking
Cluster B Personality Disorders
  • Characterization
    • “wild”
    • dramatic, emotional, or erratic
    • genetic association with mood disorders and substance abuse
  • Types
    • antisocial 
      • disregard for and violation of rights of others with lack of remorse
      • criminality
      • males > females
      • conduct disorder if < 18 years
      • commonly known as “psychopathy”
      • classic triad
        • set fires, torture animals, bed wetting
    • borderline 
      • unstable interpersonal relationships
      • impulsivity
      • sense of emptiness
      • fear of abandonment
      • females > males
      • splitting is a major defense mechanism
        • relationships are either all good (“my boyfriend is a perfect angel”) or all bad (“my boyfriend is evil and I hate him”)
      • self-mutilation
    • histrionic 
      • excessive emotionality and attention-seeking
      • sexually provocative
      • overly concerned with appearance
      • think “telenovelas”
    • narcissistic 
      • grandiosity
      • need for admiration
      • sense of entitlement
        • demands “the best”
      • lacks empathy
      • reacts to criticism with rage
Cluster C Personality Disorders
  • Characterization
    • “worried”
    • anxious or fearful
    • genetic association with anxiety disorders
  • Types
    • avoidant  
      • hypersensitive to rejection
      • socially inhibited
      • feelings of inadequacy
      • desires relationships with others (vs. schizoid)
    • obsessive-compulsive 
      • preoccupation with order, perfectionism, and control
      • ego syntonic
        • vs. OCD which is ego dystonic
    • dependent 
      • submissive and clingy
      • excessive need to be taken care of
      • low self-confidence

Don’t negotiate with emotional blackmailers.

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Don’t negotiate with emotional blackmailers.

There is a sizable subset of people out there who wish to control what you think, feel, and do.

Sometimes they have the best intentions— they might be family, or friends, or professionals who honestly think they have a better way for you to exist than the way you would otherwise live, left to  your own devices.

Sometimes they have self-interested intentions— they’re selling a product or service that purports to increase the pleasant feeling states and decrease the painful feeling states in your life.

And, yes, there is a subset of people who will seek to control you simply because that’s what they do. They like controlling people.

Whatever other peoples’ reasons for wanting to control what you think, feel, and do, there tend to be some consistencies about their methodology. The most striking feature of how they do what they do is, they…

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Components of Emotional Blackmail

The issues may differ, but the tactics and actions will be the same, and clearly recognizable.
1. Demand–someone wants something
2. Resistance–the other does not feel comfortable with the demand
3. Pressure –used to make the resistant one give in
4. Threat –to turn up the pressure
5. Compliance–on the part of the resistant one
6. Repetition–this pattern reoccurs in at least other situations (just with a different name)


What is Emotional Blackmail?

Emotional blackmail is a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten (either directly or indirectly) to punish us if we don’t do what they want. At the heart of any kind of blackmail is one basic threat, which can be expressed in many different ways: If you don’t behave the way I want you to, you will suffer.

A criminal blackmailer might threaten to use knowledge about a person’s past to ruin her reputation, or ask to be paid off in cash to hide a secret. Emotional blackmail hits closer to home. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationship with them. They know our vulnerabilities. Often they know our deepest secrets. And no matter how much they care about us, when they fear they won’t go their way, they use this intimate knowledge to shape the threats that give them the payoff they want: our compliance.


Histrionic Personality Disorder and Antisocial Personality Disorder

Little is known about the etiology of histrionic personality disorder (HPD) or its relation to other personality disorders. In this study, we examined whether HPD is etiologically related to psychopathy and more specifically whether HPD and antisocial personality disorder (ASPD) are sex-typed alternative manifestations of psychopathy. In addition, based on Newman’s (1987) response modulation hypothesis of psychopathy, we examined the associations between psychopathic, HPD, and ASPD features and performance on laboratory measures of passive avoidance errors and interference effects. Seventy-five live theater actors completed self-report questionnaires and two laboratory measures of response modulation, and peers completed questionnaires concerning the participants’ personality disorder features. The results provided weak and inconsistent support for the hypotheses that HPD is a female-typed variant of psychopathy and that ASPD is a male-typed variant of psychopathy. Contrary to previous findings, scores on response modulation tasks were not significantly related to psychopathy, or to either HPD or ASPD. The limitations of this study and possibilities for future research in this area are outlined.

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