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Inside The Narcissist’s Wicked Mind And Their Make-Believe World Of Illusions

They lie to your face without a second thought and there’s nothing you can do about it. In fact, the lies are their truth. And you believe them. Because they don’t sound like they are lying. Because otherwise, they will have you questioning your own sanity. Of course, they feel entitled to this, because you have given them your trust, energy, you have invested your hopes and dreams in them. You derive your confidence from them

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Narcissists can’t accept that they may not be wonderful people

Narcissists can’t accept that they may not be wonderful people. They are also incredibly fragile when facing an idea that perhaps they did something wrong, especially if others can see it. Therefore if there’s a conflict they will do anything and everything to maintain a fantasy that they are always good, all while perceiving the other party as evil.

Not only that, they need other people’s validation that their delusion is true. To achieve that, they create preposterous, slanderous, manipulative narratives where all of that is true and try to convince others of it. And since many people are unwilling and unable to look into the truth behind it, the narcissist can find that validation they so desperately crave and even act out their revenge fantasies. Often the reason is as simple as hating to see others doing well because they themselves are miserable.

As a result, sometimes people get seriously hurt: socially, financially, emotionally, or even physically. But the narcissist doesn’t care about that. In fact they are often glad, because in their  narrative the victim deserves it by being “evil,” so whatever happens is justified.

Source: How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story

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How Narcissists Play the Victim

Closer analysis

If you actually examine the narcissist’s narrative, you quickly notice that they are full of crap.

For instance if you examine a narcissistic parent who tells others how you hurt them and say mean things, you quickly notice that they are the one who constantly demeans, disrespects, and manipulates the adult-child. And when the child becomes more assertive and stops giving them resources (time, money, attention), they see it as aggression because they feel entitled to those resources.

If you examine further, you notice that not only the narcissistic parent was initially disrespecting the adult-child’s boundaries, but is also retaliating further now by manipulating others into siding with them.

The same is the case in professional environments or personal relationships. The narcissistic party does something toxic, the aggrieved party reacts and stops the perpetrator or distances from them, and then the narcissist retaliates by trying to shape the social opinion into a narrative where they are the good, righteous party. Sometimes they even convince others to bully and intimidate the victim further.

Source: How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story

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How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story

While delusion is more of an internal process, lying and denial is often in the context of other people.

Regular people deal with their problems by themselves, internally. Or they discuss it in a very private setting: in therapy or among very close, healthy people. Narcissists don’t have people like that in their life and are not really interested in actually resolving anything or being introspective.

Narcissists simply want to know that they are in the right. For that, they need other people’s false validation to regulate their shaky self-esteem. They need to find people who would agree with them. And in order for others to agree with them, these other people either need to be terribly unhealthy and unable to recognize their toxic tendencies, or the narcissist needs to lie and present a different story than what is actually true.

Here, they tend to flip the roles where they are good, noble, caring, virtuous and the other person is evil, cruel, selfish, and immoral. Which brings us to the next point….

Source: How Narcissists Play the Victim and Twist the Story

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It Takes Just One Question to Identify Narcissism

Ohio State researchers believe they have developed and validated a new method to identify which people are narcissistic. And, the beauty is that the tool is only a single question. In a series of 11 experiments involving more than 2,200 people of all ages, the researchers found they could reliably identify narcissistic people by asking them this exact question (including the note): To what extent do you agree with this statement: ‘I am a narcissist.’ (Note: The word ‘narcissist’ means egotistical, self-focused, and vain.) Participants rated themselves on a scale of one (not very true of me) to seven (very true of me). If you are curious about the test or want to know how narcissistic are you? The test is found at . Results showed that people’s answer to this question lined up very closely with several other validated measures of narcissism, including the widely used Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI). The difference is that this new survey — which the

Source: It Takes Just One Question to Identify Narcissism

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I am truly sorry, I really am. This is not who I am.

 I am truly sorry, I really am. This is not who I am. 

This is exactly who I am and my behavioral patterns should have tipped you off by now. Sure, I’ll apologize from time to time to get these discussions over with and to make you think I really want to change or that this was a momentary lapse. I hope you’re buying it, because if you let me back into your life again, you’re in for one hell of a ride.

Source: 12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell, Translated Into Truth

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Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell

 I used to be a player, but now I am a changed man or woman. Now I want a meaningful relationship and a life partner.

Are you buying this bullshit? I hope so, because I’d like to sleep with you soon and making you think that we may one day be in a relationship is the first step to getting in your pants. I’ll fake some shame to go along with my reformed image. I am so deeply remorseful for all those I’ve hurt in the past and I’ve really learned my lesson – not! The truth is, I’ll never change.

Source: 12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell, Translated Into Truth

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The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell

 My ex was so dishonest and toxic.

I was of course the toxic and dishonest one, but you won’t figure that out until it’s too late. I betrayed my previous partners and they found out. Of course, by then, I had to discard them because they had seen behind the mask and they were no longer willing to invest in forgetting my crimes. And now, I have to do some damage control by convincing you that I am someone you should pity and take care of – someone who’s been hurt by others in the past. Feel sorry for me. Nurse me back to emotional health. Co

Source: 12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell, Translated Into Truth

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Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell

 I would never lie to you. 

I am lying as I say this. You do know that an authentic truth-teller wouldn’t have to convince you, right? The reason I constantly have to tell you I would never lie to you is because I know you will eventually find the discrepancies between what I say and what I do. When you’re struggling to understand why I am acting with such cruelty, you’ll remember how I stressed to you that I am an honest person, a person of integrity and character – a person who would never do such things. You’ll be confused because my actions speak so differently than my words. Slowly but surely, I am brainwashing you into believing that I would never lie. That will create a conflict in you – enough reasonable doubt for whenever my lies come to the surface. You’ll want to believe in the person I pretended to be, rather than who I really am.

Source: 12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell, Translated Into Truth

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12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell, Translated Into Truth

2. He or she was obsessed with me. 

My past victims discovered my infidelity, my falsehoods and even gained a momentary glance behind the mask. They called me out, even tried to expose me. They tried to hold me accountable for my actions. Don’t be surprised if they reach out to warn you – but by the time they do, you’ll be convinced they’re crazy and obsessed with me. They’re just jealous of what we have – or at least that’s what I’ll tell you. They’re just stalking me because they want me back so desperately – couldn’t have anything to do with the pain I’ve inflicted upon them, right?

Source: 12 Of The Most Common Lies Sociopaths And Narcissists Tell, Translated Into Truth