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Ah, projection. The fine art of making me guilty of your vices. Projection No one projects better or more frequently than a narcissist. They’ve practiced, honed and refined projection to a fine art. Whatever they’re up to, by some mental…
Guilt? Maybe.
Envy of other’s innocence? Perhaps.
Avoidance of the result of wrong-doing? Now we’re getting somewhere.
The need to be perfect! Bingo + all of the above.
Gotta protect that fragile little ol’ ego, y’know.
People with strong narcissistic, psychopathic, or sociopathic tendencies, abusers, manipulators, and otherwise harmful people tend to hurt others. Sometimes they do it overtly, even proudly, and in other cases it’s covert or maybe even unconscious. Sometimes it’s well planned and calculated, while other times it’s careless and reactionary.
Sometimes these people are identified and are forced to accept the consequences of their wrongdoings, while other times they get away with their behavior. And in certain social environments they, horrifyingly, are rewarded for their narcissistic and otherwise hurtful behavior.
Ask yourself:
Whose responsibility is this, really?
Am I really serving this person by suffering the consequences of their actions for them?
What will happen of this pattern continues on forever?
How will this person benefit if I refuse to suffer the consequences for his actions?
How am I sabotaging myself and other concerned parties by taking too much responsibility?
Stop taking on unnecessary responsibility for other adults and require them to deal with their own actions. Only then can they learn from their mistakes, and be motivated to avoid making them again.
Let them reap what they sow.
Source: How to Handle Adults Who Take No Responsibility for Their Actions
“You reap whatever you sow.” (Gal. 6:7) We have all heard about the law of reaping what you sow. It is much like the law of cause and effect. For instance, if you smoke, you most likely will suffer the harsh side effects such as cancer,…
Well, they never learn. They keep repeating the same mistakes over and over, without ever figuring out how to avoid negative consequences in the first place.
How does this happen? The most common explanation is that someone else is interfering.
It’s a frequent occurrence that someone can interrupt the law of cause and effect on someone else’s life. An example of this could be a mother constantly stepping in and saving their adult son or daughter from a difficult situation, such as continually paying off their bills.
The mother is shielding their adult child from the harsh reality of reckless actions. The adult child is being encouraged to not learn their lesson and is very likely to do it all over again. In fact, there is no reason not to.
Source: How to Handle Adults Who Take No Responsibility for Their Actions
The scene: a bitter divorce, and a custody battle over the couple’s 7-year-old son. Awarded full custody, the mother — perhaps seeking revenge? — sets out to destroy the son’s relationship with his father. The mother tells the son lies about the father’s behavior, plants seeds of doubt about his fitness as a parent, and sabotages the father’s efforts to see his son. The son begins to believe the lies; as he grows up, his relationship with his father becomes strained.
Tonight we ring out the old and ring in the new. And
And should old acquaintance be forgot, and never
In other cases (especially in severe cases where there may be other psychotic symptoms such as hallucinations or disorganized thought patterns), the person lacks the control necessary to hide delusional thoughts and may begin to appear “psychologically unstable” to others. In other words, they begin to act out.
When this acting out doesn’t happen, delusional thought patterns are likely to remain hidden from society. As a result, people with delusions rarely pursue treatment. Why pursue treatment if nothing is wrong with you? Why pursue treatment if you are firmly attached to the idea that you are right about what you think?
A Nobel Prize-winning psychologist says most people don’t really want to be happy
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