All these years, she and my dad have been lying to me about the divorce, lying about my mom and I believed it all. Because of that, I’ve been sort of distant from my mom since my dad remarried five years ago.
After I got off the phone with my stepmom, I talked to my brother, who stuck by my mom and always tried to tell me they were liars. He told me I should remember the fights when we were little, and my dad screaming and throwing things, but in my memory none of it was that bad.
I’m so ashamed. I don’t even know how to make it up to my mom, who through all of this always told me she still loved me, even with all the hard words I threw at her. I’m beating myself up now wondering why I chose to believe my dad when there were so many signs I was wrong.
I called and had a crying talk with her, and I’m avoiding my dad’s calls since I don’t know what to even say to him. What do I do now?
— So Ashamed
https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2021/09/23/carolyn-hax-abusive-dad-kid-faces-truth/
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