Here are just a few things one can expect to have happen when and if an abusive person can worm their way into a counseling session:
- situationally abuse and terrorize victims — most oftentimes covertly but always with an overt, grandiose manner if and when they have the chance to impress fellow narcissistic people with their clever, manipulating, cold, calculating, and dominating personality publicly (including lying to and manipulating an unsuspecting counselor)
- leaked their victim’s personal information about things like childhood abuse, sexual abuse, intimate relationship details, and physical abuse maliciously
- gossiped and demeaned while attempting to intellectually, emotionally, or socially invalidate
- blame shifted while promoting shame
- encouraged Flying Monkeys to ridicule, laugh at, mock, or otherwise humiliate and/or embarrass a target
- intimidating and menacing (if overt); spreading false rumors, stalking with the intent to cause duress on a victim, or cyberstalking explicitly to anonymously violate privacy rights of a victim (if covert)
- attempting to forcibly estrange or socially isolate a victim
- bullying
- fear-mongering
- smear campaigning
- pathological lying for amusement, sport (conning), or self-interest
- stealing or financial abuse
- mood swings with narcissistic rage routinely prospective
- encourages or deliberately triangulates
- claims they were the abused party despite having been the primary catalyst, triggering person, or aggressor — “false victimization”
- try to con their own victims into believing that the victim is narcissistic, self-centered, or being abusive for reacting with anger or frustration to having been abused, had civil or human rights boundaries violated, or for developing C-PTSD “stressor-induced” triggers
- sleeping with a therapist or starting a romantic entanglement with a person who they know has inside information about a victim
- targeting the therapist for social or professional destruction, even going so far as to blackmail counselors (i.e. one Sociopath we personally know took great pleasure in picking a therapist because he knew that he had — while married to his first wife — had sex with the man’s daughter — and the man, a protective father of a well-endowed teenage female from a very prominent family and religious tradition, did not know)
- they learn to push buttons faster and more efficiently than Dee Dee on “Dexter’s Laboratory” cartoon show
Narcissists destroy people in the most extreme and cruel ways humanly imaginable. Their number one goal (aside from “winning” whatever illusory competition they have created as a social scenario in their head), is to emotionally, socially, physically, and financially cripple their targets, scapegoats, and even the occasional collateral damage victim as much as possible.
Source: Never take an abusive or ‘Narcissistic’ person to counseling with
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