Covert abuse is death by slow poison, administered by toxic dysfunctional human beings. Usually, it occurs in close relationships. Since, there is no physical violence, at first, you try to ignore it and try to brush it off.
Moreover, as a child, you have no point of reference. You tolerate, deny rationalize and even empathize the bad behaviors. Because it is insidious and deceptive your mind takes a long time to accept that something is off.
Unfortunately, by the time we realize that this is abuse it is too late, Because steadily, bit by bit it has destroyed your trust in yourself. and your world. Covert abuse slowly chips away your sense of self