Manipulating your therapist

Manipulating your therapist refers to the act of intentionally influencing or controlling your therapist for personal gain or to avoid dealing with difficult emotions or situations. This can take many forms, such as withholding information, lying, playing the victim, or trying to elicit a particular response or reaction from the therapist.

Manipulating your therapist can have negative consequences, such as prolonging or exacerbating emotional or psychological issues, damaging the therapeutic relationship, or limiting personal growth and progress.

It is important to recognize the potential signs of manipulation in therapy, such as:

  1. Resistance to therapy: A client may resist therapy, or be unwilling to engage in certain exercises or activities.
  2. Withholding information: A client may withhold or minimize certain information, or lie about their experiences or behaviors.
  3. Playing the victim: A client may try to elicit sympathy or special treatment from the therapist, or blame others for their problems.
  4. Testing boundaries: A client may try to test the therapist’s boundaries or push their limits, in order to gain more control or avoid difficult emotions.

If you suspect that you are manipulating your therapist, it is important to take steps to address the behavior, such as:

  1. Acknowledging the behavior: Recognize that manipulation is a defense mechanism, and that it is possible to change the behavior through awareness and effort.
  2. Seeking feedback: Ask the therapist for feedback on the therapeutic relationship, and be open to constructive criticism or suggestions for improvement.
  3. Being honest: Practice honesty and openness in therapy, even if it means admitting to difficult feelings or experiences.
  4. Taking responsibility: Take responsibility for one’s own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and work collaboratively with the therapist to identify and address areas of concern.

Ultimately, therapy is a collaborative process that requires honesty, openness, and mutual respect. Manipulating your therapist can undermine the therapeutic relationship and limit the potential for personal growth and progress. It is important to be aware of the potential signs of manipulation and to take steps to address the behavior in a constructive and respectful manner.

Author: Linda Turner

Coaching and Therapy Currently studying Psychotherapy , Cognitive psychology, Hypnotherapy. Qualified NLP, EMDR and CBT therapist. REIKI Master. I believe in truth, honesty and integrity! ≧◔◡◔≦

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