The psychological phenomenon you are referring to is called “projection”. Projection occurs when an individual unconsciously ascribes their own unacceptable thoughts, feelings, or behaviors onto another person, often without realizing that they are doing so.
For example, if someone is feeling jealous of their partner, they may accuse their partner of being unfaithful, even if there is no evidence to support this accusation. This projection allows the individual to distance themselves from their own uncomfortable feelings, while also potentially creating a sense of control or power over the situation.
Projection can be harmful to relationships and can lead to misunderstandings, conflict, and a lack of trust. It’s important to be aware of this phenomenon and to address it if it’s happening in your own relationships, as it can be a sign of deeper issues that may need to be addressed in therapy or counseling.