Creating dependency is a common tactic employed by controlling individuals to establish power and control over others. Here are some signs that someone may be attempting to create dependency in a relationship:
- Undermining your self-confidence: They may constantly criticize and belittle your abilities, decisions, or achievements, making you doubt yourself and rely on their validation and guidance.
- Diminishing your support network: They might discourage or criticize your relationships with friends, family, or other support systems. By weakening your connections with others, they aim to make you increasingly reliant on them for emotional support and guidance.
- Controlling your access to information: They may limit your exposure to information or manipulate the information you receive. By controlling what you know and understand, they seek to maintain power over your perceptions and decisions.
- Making decisions on your behalf: They consistently make decisions for you without considering your input or desires. They may disregard your opinions and preferences, gradually eroding your sense of autonomy and agency.
- Taking control of your resources: They may gain control over your finances, access to transportation, or other resources, creating a dependency on them for basic needs and resources.
- Encouraging or enabling learned helplessness: They may discourage your independence and self-reliance, making you believe that you are incapable of handling situations on your own. This fosters a sense of helplessness, ensuring your reliance on their support.
- Emotional manipulation: They use emotional manipulation techniques, such as guilt-tripping, playing on your emotions, or using rewards and punishments, to control your actions and decisions. They exploit your vulnerabilities to maintain control and keep you dependent on them.
If you recognize these signs in a relationship, it’s important to evaluate the dynamics and consider the impact on your well-being. Developing a sense of independence and self-reliance is crucial for healthy relationships. If you feel trapped or unable to break free from a controlling individual, reach out to trusted friends, family, or professionals who can provide support and guidance. They can help you navigate the situation, explore your options, and empower you to regain control of your life.
© Linda C J Turner