Narcissistic mortification of ageing men

The term “narcissistic mortification of aging men” describes a phenomenon in which older men experience a sense of humiliation or shame related to their changing physical appearance and diminishing societal status as they age. It is rooted in the concept of narcissism, which refers to an excessive preoccupation with oneself and a desire for admiration from others.

As men age, they may face various challenges that can trigger feelings of narcissistic mortification. These challenges can include:

1. Physical changes: Aging often brings about physical changes such as graying hair, wrinkles, weight gain, or the loss of muscle tone. These changes can lead to a decline in physical attractiveness, which may be difficult for individuals who have placed significant value on their appearance and external validation.
2. Loss of vitality: Aging can be accompanied by a decrease in energy levels, stamina, and overall physical prowess. Men who have derived a sense of self-worth from their physical capabilities or achievements may feel a loss of power and a sense of mortification when they are no longer able to perform at the same level.
3. Career and status transitions: As men age, they may experience changes in their professional lives, such as retirement or a shift in their career trajectory. These transitions can result in a loss of professional identity and a diminished sense of purpose and social status, which can be emotionally challenging for individuals who have tied their self-esteem to their professional achievements.
4. Societal expectations: Society often places significant emphasis on youth, vigor, and productivity, particularly for men. Aging men may perceive societal pressure to maintain a certain level of vitality and productivity, and the inability to meet these expectations can lead to feelings of shame or humiliation.

It is important to note that not all aging men experience narcissistic mortification, and individual experiences can vary widely. Some individuals may embrace the aging process and find fulfillment and meaning in different aspects of their lives. However, for those who do experience this phenomenon, it can be helpful to seek support from friends, family, or mental health professionals to navigate these challenges and develop a positive self-image in later life.

 © Linda C J Turner