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The controlling friend

Recognizing a controlling friend can be challenging, as their behavior might initially be subtle or disguised as concern. However, there are some signs to watch out for that may indicate a friend’s controlling tendencies:

  1. Excessive need for control: They consistently want things done their way and may become upset or frustrated when things don’t go according to their plans. They may try to manipulate situations or pressure you into conforming to their preferences.
  2. Decision-making dominance: They tend to make decisions for the group or dictate what you should do without considering your input or desires. Your opinions and choices may be dismissed or overridden.
  3. Constant criticism: They frequently find fault with your choices, actions, or appearance, often making you feel inadequate or inferior. They may use criticism as a means to assert control or make you doubt yourself.
  4. Isolation tactics: They may try to isolate you from other friends or loved ones by discouraging or criticizing your relationships with them. They may also become possessive and express jealousy when you spend time with others.
  5. Manipulative behavior: They use manipulation tactics such as guilt-tripping, gaslighting, or playing mind games to control your thoughts, emotions, or actions. They may exploit your vulnerabilities to get their way.
  6. Lack of respect for boundaries: They disregard your personal boundaries, whether physical, emotional, or social. They may invade your personal space, pry into your personal life, or pressure you into disclosing information you’re uncomfortable sharing.
  7. Undermining your confidence: They may consistently undermine your self-esteem and confidence by belittling your achievements, skills, or aspirations. They may try to keep you dependent on them by making you doubt your abilities.
  8. Controlling communication: They monitor and control your communication channels, such as demanding constant updates, insisting on being included in all conversations, or becoming angry if you don’t respond immediately.
  9. Jealousy and possessiveness: They display signs of jealousy and possessiveness over your time, attention, or relationships. They may try to limit your interactions with others or exhibit anger when you prioritize someone else over them.
  10. Emotional manipulation: They may use emotional manipulation techniques, such as guilt, anger, or silent treatment, to make you comply with their wishes or desires. They exploit your emotions to maintain control over you.

If you notice these behaviors consistently and feel uneasy or restricted in the friendship, it’s essential to trust your instincts. It may be helpful to discuss your concerns with a trusted friend or seek guidance from a counselor or therapist who can provide objective advice. Remember, healthy friendships are based on mutual respect, trust, and the freedom to express your thoughts and make your own choices.

 © Linda C J Turner

By Linda C J Turner

Coaching and Therapy
Currently studying Psychotherapy , Cognitive psychology, Hypnotherapy.
Qualified NLP, EMDR and CBT therapist.
REIKI Master.
I believe in truth, honesty and integrity! ≧◔◡◔≦

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