Q & A – Why do serial abusers get away with it?

Serial abusers are individuals who engage in a pattern of abusive behavior over time. Unfortunately, some of them are able to continue their abusive behavior without facing appropriate consequences. Here are some factors that may contribute to serial abusers getting away with their actions:

1. Manipulation and charm: Serial abusers often possess charismatic and manipulative qualities that allow them to charm and deceive others. They may present a charming and likable facade to gain trust and manipulate people into believing their false narratives. This makes it challenging for victims and even bystanders to recognize their true nature and hold them accountable.
2. Power and control dynamics: Abusers often use power and control tactics to maintain dominance over their victims. This can include emotional manipulation, isolation, gaslighting, threats, and physical violence. The victims may feel trapped, fearful, and unable to speak out or seek help due to the abuser’s influence and control.
3. Victim-blaming and disbelief: Society and institutions may perpetuate victim-blaming and disbelief, which can further protect the abuser. Victims may be discredited, doubted, or blamed for their abuse, making it difficult for them to come forward or seek justice. This can be particularly pronounced when the abuser holds positions of power or influence.
4. Fear and intimidation: Serial abusers often create an environment of fear and intimidation around themselves. They may instill fear in their victims, making them afraid to report the abuse or speak out against them. This fear can be compounded by threats of retaliation, reputation damage, or further harm.
5. Lack of evidence or witnesses: In many cases, abusive behavior occurs behind closed doors, making it challenging to gather concrete evidence or find witnesses. Without substantial evidence, it can be difficult to hold the abuser accountable within legal or institutional frameworks.
6. Institutional failures: There can be failures within systems, such as workplaces, educational institutions, or legal systems, to adequately respond to reports of abuse. This can include mishandling or dismissing complaints, inadequate investigations, or protecting the reputation of the abuser or the institution at the expense of the victim’s well-being.

It is important to recognize that these factors do not excuse or justify the actions of serial abusers. Efforts must be made to create awareness, educate communities about abuse dynamics, and promote a culture that supports and believes survivors. This includes improving institutional responses, implementing better policies and protocols, and providing resources and support for victims.

 © Linda C J Turner