Bait and switch in relationships

In the context of relationships, “bait and switch” refers to a situation where one person initially presents themselves or their intentions in a certain way to attract a partner, but later changes or reveals aspects of their personality or behavior that were not initially apparent. It can involve misleading or deceptive tactics to gain the interest or commitment of the other person.

Here’s an example to illustrate the concept:

Let’s say two people start dating, and in the beginning, one person presents themselves as caring, supportive, and attentive. They may go out of their way to make the other person feel special, expressing interest in their hobbies and goals. This behavior serves as the “bait” to attract the other person and establish a connection.

However, as the relationship progresses and the other person becomes more emotionally invested, the person who initially presented themselves as caring and supportive begins to change their behavior. They may become less attentive, dismissive of the other person’s needs or feelings, or even exhibit manipulative or controlling tendencies. This change in behavior represents the “switch,” where the person’s true nature or intentions are revealed.

Bait and switch in relationships can be emotionally damaging and erode trust between partners. It can leave the other person feeling deceived, confused, or betrayed, as the foundation of the relationship was built on false pretenses.

It’s important to note that healthy relationships are based on open communication, trust, and authenticity. Bait and switch tactics are not conducive to building a strong, mutually respectful partnership. Being honest and transparent about one’s intentions, values, and behavior from the beginning helps establish a foundation of trust and ensures that both partners enter the relationship with realistic expectations.

 © Linda C J Turner