Deceived by a family member

Discovering that you have been deceived by a family member can be particularly difficult and emotionally challenging. Here are some steps you can consider taking to address this situation:

  1. Allow yourself to process your emotions: It’s normal to feel a wide range of emotions, such as shock, anger, sadness, or betrayal. Give yourself time and space to acknowledge and process these emotions. Talking to a trusted friend or therapist can provide support during this time.
  2. Verify the facts: Ensure that the deception is indeed accurate by gathering evidence or seeking additional information. This step can help you have a clearer understanding of the situation and avoid jumping to conclusions.
  3. Communicate your feelings: If you feel comfortable, have an open and honest conversation with the family member who deceived you. Express your emotions, concerns, and the impact their actions had on you. Be prepared for various reactions, as they may deny or become defensive. It’s important to set boundaries and maintain a calm and respectful tone during the discussion.
  4. Seek mediation or professional help: If the deception has caused significant strain within your family or if it’s challenging to communicate directly, involving a neutral third party, such as a therapist or mediator, may be beneficial. They can help facilitate a constructive dialogue and provide guidance for resolving conflicts.
  5. Evaluate your boundaries: Assess the impact of the deception on your relationship with the family member. Consider your values, boundaries, and whether you can rebuild trust. It may be necessary to set boundaries, limit contact, or seek distance from the individual if the deception is severe and ongoing.
  6. Focus on self-care: Engage in self-care practices to support your emotional well-being during this challenging time. This can include activities like exercise, spending time with loved ones, pursuing hobbies, or seeking professional support.
  7. Consider forgiveness: Forgiveness is a personal choice and a process that takes time. It does not mean forgetting or condoning the deception but rather freeing yourself from the burden of resentment. Depending on the circumstances, forgiveness may or may not be achievable or appropriate.

Remember that every situation is unique, and these steps may not apply to all circumstances. It can be helpful to tailor them to your specific needs and seek guidance from trusted individuals in your life.

 © Linda C J Turner

By Linda C J Turner

Coaching and Therapy
Currently studying Psychotherapy , Cognitive psychology, Hypnotherapy.
Qualified NLP, EMDR and CBT therapist.
REIKI Master.
I believe in truth, honesty and integrity! ≧◔◡◔≦

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