Q & A – I had no idea that I was being lied to!

If you discovered that you were being lied to and genuinely had no idea about it, it’s natural to feel surprised, disappointed, or even betrayed. Discovering deception can be a challenging experience. Here are some steps you can take to address the situation:

1. Assess the situation: Take some time to process your emotions and evaluate the extent of the deception. Reflect on the impact it had on you and any potential consequences.
2. Gather evidence: If possible, gather any evidence or information that supports your suspicion of being lied to. This evidence can be helpful if you decide to confront the person or seek resolution.
3. Seek clarification: Approach the person who lied to you and calmly express your concerns. Ask for an explanation and give them an opportunity to provide their side of the story. Communication is essential in addressing the issue and gaining a clearer understanding of what happened.
4. Consider the context: Reflect on the relationship or situation in which the deception occurred. Evaluate whether the lie was a one-time occurrence or if there are deeper trust issues that need to be addressed. This assessment can help you determine the best course of action moving forward.
5. Determine your boundaries: Depending on the severity of the deception and your personal values, you may decide to distance yourself from the person who lied to you. Set clear boundaries and make choices that prioritize your emotional well-being.
6. Seek support: It can be helpful to reach out to trusted friends, family, or a therapist to discuss your feelings and gain perspective. They can offer support, guidance, and help you process your emotions.

Remember that forgiving someone who lied to you is a personal decision that depends on the circumstances and your own values. It’s important to prioritize your well-being and make choices that align with your needs and values.

Please note that these suggestions are general and may not apply to every situation. If you require more specific advice or guidance, it can be helpful to consult with a professional or someone you trust.

 © Linda C J Turner