Q & A – What is gatekeeper parent?

A “gatekeeper parent” is a term used to describe a parent who controls or restricts access between their child and the other parent, often after a divorce or separation. This behavior can be detrimental to the child’s well-being and can interfere with the child’s relationship with the other parent. If you’re dealing with a gatekeeper parent, here are some suggestions:

1. Document interactions: Keep a record of any instances where the gatekeeper parent prevents or interferes with your access to the child. This documentation can be useful if legal action becomes necessary.
2. Communicate calmly and assertively: Try to maintain open lines of communication with the gatekeeper parent. Express your concerns calmly and assertively, focusing on the child’s best interests. Avoid getting into arguments or engaging in confrontations that may escalate the situation.
3. Mediation or counseling: Suggest mediation or family counseling as a way to address the conflict and find a resolution. A neutral third party can help facilitate productive conversations and develop a co-parenting plan that prioritizes the child’s needs.
4. Seek legal advice: If communication and mediation attempts fail, it may be necessary to consult with a family law attorney. They can provide guidance on your rights and options, including pursuing legal remedies such as modifying custody arrangements or seeking court intervention.
5. Focus on the child’s well-being: Keep the child’s well-being at the forefront of your actions and decisions. Continuously demonstrate your commitment to being an involved and supportive parent, even if you face obstacles from the gatekeeper parent.
6. Maintain a positive presence: Be consistently present and involved in your child’s life whenever you have access. This will help counteract any negative effects of gatekeeping behavior and reinforce the importance of your relationship with the child.

Remember, navigating a gatekeeper parent situation can be complex and emotionally challenging. It’s essential to seek appropriate legal and professional support to ensure the best possible outcome for both you and your child.

© Linda C J Turner