The study examined, in a sample of 346 undergraduates, the convergence and divergence of three self-report measures of psychopathy; the Psychopathic Personality Inventory (Lillienfeld & Andrews, 1996), the Self-Report Psychopathy scale (Hare, Harpur, & Hemphill, 1989), and the Five Factor Psychopathy Index (Miller, Lynam, Widiger, & Leukefeld, 2001). Measures demonstrated strong convergence at the total score level, but weak convergence at the factor level. Correlations with domains and facets of the NEO Personality Inventory-Revised (Costa & McCrae, 1992) provided personality parsings of each measure. Across measures, psychopathy was composed of low Agreeableness, low Conscientiousness and a blend of high and low facets of Neuroticism and Extraversion. Divergence among subscales was due to differences in personality characteristics assessed. Additionally, the potential moderating effects of sex were also examined, but very few were identified. Implications of these results and future directions are discussed.

Q & A – I am an adult child of a psychopath?

Adult children of psychopaths, narcissists, and sociopaths are individuals who were raised by parents with these personality disorders. These parents often exhibit patterns of manipulative, abusive, and controlling behavior, and may prioritize their own needs and desires over those of their children.

Growing up with a parent who has a personality disorder can have a profound impact on a child’s emotional, psychological, and social development. Adult children of psychopaths, narcissists, and sociopaths may struggle with issues such as low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, feelings of shame and guilt, and difficulty forming healthy relationships.

Therapy can be an important resource for adult children of these parents, as it can help them understand the impact of their childhood experiences on their current lives, develop coping strategies, and work towards healing and recovery. Additionally, support groups and resources specifically for adult children of psychopaths, narcissists, and sociopaths can provide validation, understanding, and community for those who have experienced similar traumas.

Manipulating your therapist

Manipulating your therapist refers to the act of intentionally influencing or controlling your therapist for personal gain or to avoid dealing with difficult emotions or situations. This can take many forms, such as withholding information, lying, playing the victim, or trying to elicit a particular response or reaction from the therapist.

Manipulating your therapist can have negative consequences, such as prolonging or exacerbating emotional or psychological issues, damaging the therapeutic relationship, or limiting personal growth and progress.

It is important to recognize the potential signs of manipulation in therapy, such as:

  1. Resistance to therapy: A client may resist therapy, or be unwilling to engage in certain exercises or activities.
  2. Withholding information: A client may withhold or minimize certain information, or lie about their experiences or behaviors.
  3. Playing the victim: A client may try to elicit sympathy or special treatment from the therapist, or blame others for their problems.
  4. Testing boundaries: A client may try to test the therapist’s boundaries or push their limits, in order to gain more control or avoid difficult emotions.

If you suspect that you are manipulating your therapist, it is important to take steps to address the behavior, such as:

  1. Acknowledging the behavior: Recognize that manipulation is a defense mechanism, and that it is possible to change the behavior through awareness and effort.
  2. Seeking feedback: Ask the therapist for feedback on the therapeutic relationship, and be open to constructive criticism or suggestions for improvement.
  3. Being honest: Practice honesty and openness in therapy, even if it means admitting to difficult feelings or experiences.
  4. Taking responsibility: Take responsibility for one’s own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and work collaboratively with the therapist to identify and address areas of concern.

Ultimately, therapy is a collaborative process that requires honesty, openness, and mutual respect. Manipulating your therapist can undermine the therapeutic relationship and limit the potential for personal growth and progress. It is important to be aware of the potential signs of manipulation and to take steps to address the behavior in a constructive and respectful manner.

How to recognise psychopathic grooming

Recognizing psychopathic grooming can be challenging, as psychopaths are skilled at manipulating and hiding their true intentions. However, there are some warning signs that may indicate that someone is engaging in grooming behaviors:

  1. Excessive flattery: Psychopaths may use flattery to gain their victim’s trust and make them feel special. They may compliment their victim excessively, even for things that are not particularly noteworthy.
  2. Isolation: Psychopaths may try to isolate their victim from their friends and family, creating a sense of dependence on the psychopath.
  3. Love-bombing: Psychopaths may engage in “love-bombing,” which is an intense period of attention and affection designed to quickly establish a deep emotional connection with the victim.
  4. Manipulation: Psychopaths may use manipulation tactics to control their victim’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This can include gaslighting, making the victim doubt their own perceptions and reality.
  5. Unreasonable requests: Psychopaths may make unreasonable requests of their victim, and use guilt or threats to get their way.
  6. Inconsistent behavior: Psychopaths may behave inconsistently, alternating between extreme charm and aggression or withdrawal. This can create confusion and make the victim feel like they are always walking on eggshells.

It is important to remember that not all individuals who engage in these behaviors are psychopaths, and that many of these behaviors can also be exhibited by individuals with other personality disorders or who are simply manipulative. However, if you are experiencing any of these warning signs in a relationship, it is important to seek help and support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional.

Q & A – Psychopath mirroring, what is it?

Psychopath mirroring refers to the behavior of psychopaths, who may use mirroring as a tool to manipulate others. Mirroring is a social behavior that involves mimicking or reflecting the behavior, gestures, and expressions of others in order to build rapport and create a sense of connection. Psychopaths may use mirroring as a way to gain the trust and confidence of their victims, and to hide their true intentions and emotions.

Psychopaths are known for their ability to mimic normal social behavior, including empathy and compassion, in order to appear more “normal” and gain the trust of others. They may use mirroring to create a sense of intimacy and closeness with their victims, which can make it easier for them to manipulate and control their behavior.

For example, a psychopath may mirror the body language and tone of voice of their victim in order to create a sense of rapport and trust. They may also mirror the emotions of their victim in order to appear empathetic and understanding, even if they have no actual emotional connection to the situation.

It is important to note that not all individuals who engage in mirroring behavior are psychopaths, and that mirroring can be a normal and healthy social behavior in many contexts. However, when used by psychopaths as a tool for manipulation and control, mirroring can be a sign of their underlying personality disorder and their desire to exploit others for their own gain.

Q & A – what is the best treatment for emotional abuse?

The best treatment for emotional abuse will depend on the individual and their specific situation. However, some common treatments and strategies that may be effective for emotional abuse include:

  1. Therapy: A mental health professional, such as a psychologist, counselor, or therapist, can work with the person who has experienced emotional abuse to identify the effects of the abuse and develop strategies for coping with those effects. Therapy can also help the person develop healthier relationships in the future.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group for survivors of emotional abuse can be helpful for those who feel isolated or misunderstood. Support groups can provide validation, encouragement, and a sense of community.
  3. Safety planning: If the emotional abuse is ongoing or has the potential to escalate to physical violence, it may be important to develop a safety plan. This may involve seeking help from a domestic violence shelter or hotline, informing trusted friends or family members, or taking other steps to protect oneself.
  4. Education: Learning about the dynamics of emotional abuse can be helpful in understanding and recognizing it. Educational resources may include books, articles, videos, or online courses.
  5. Medication: In some cases, medication may be prescribed to address symptoms of depression, anxiety, or other mental health concerns that may result from emotional abuse.

It’s important to note that emotional abuse can have long-lasting effects, and it may take time and a combination of different treatments and strategies to heal. It’s always best to consult with a qualified mental health professional to determine the most appropriate treatment approach for your specific situation.

Q & A – psychological manipulation

Psychological manipulation refers to the use of tactics or strategies to influence or control another person’s thoughts, feelings, or behaviors, often for personal gain or to meet one’s own needs. This can be done intentionally or unintentionally, and can take many different forms, from subtle forms of persuasion to more overt forms of coercion.

Examples of psychological manipulation include:

  1. Gaslighting: This is a form of manipulation in which the manipulator denies or distorts reality, making the victim question their own perceptions of events or even their own sanity.
  2. Emotional blackmail: This involves using threats, guilt, or other forms of emotional pressure to manipulate someone into doing what the manipulator wants.
  3. Love bombing: This is a tactic in which the manipulator showers the victim with attention, affection, and praise in order to gain their trust and control them.
  4. Isolation: This involves cutting the victim off from friends, family, or other sources of support, making them more dependent on the manipulator and easier to control.
  5. Devaluation: This is a tactic in which the manipulator undermines the victim’s self-esteem and self-worth, making them more vulnerable to manipulation.

Overall, psychological manipulation can be a harmful and manipulative tactic that can lead to the victim feeling confused, disoriented, and powerless. It is important to recognize the signs of manipulation and to set boundaries to protect oneself from being manipulated.

©Linda Turner 2023

Q & A – what is distorting reality?

Distorting reality refers to the act of manipulating or altering the perception of what is true or real. This can be done intentionally or unintentionally, and can take many different forms.

In the context of a narcissist controlling the story, distorting reality might involve denying facts, exaggerating or minimizing details, or selectively highlighting certain aspects of a situation while ignoring others. For example, a narcissist might twist a conversation or event to make it seem like they were the victim, or to make themselves appear more important or competent than they really are.

Distorting reality can also be a form of gaslighting, which is a tactic often used by abusers to make their victims doubt their own perceptions of reality. In gaslighting, the abuser may deny that certain events or conversations ever took place, or they may present a distorted version of events that is designed to make the victim question their own memory or sanity.

Overall, distorting reality is a way of manipulating the truth to serve one’s own interests or agenda, and can be a harmful and manipulative tactic in relationships and other social contexts.

©Linda Turner 2023

Q & A Obsessed Alienator

What is an obsessed parental alienator?

An obsessed parental alienator is a person who attempts to disrupt or sever the relationship between a child and one of their parents, usually the non-custodial parent. This is done through a variety of tactics, such as making false allegations of abuse, manipulating the child to reject the other parent, and/or attempting to turn the child against the other parent.

Dealing with an obsessed alienator

If you are dealing with an obsessed alienator, it is important to remember that you are not alone. It is important to reach out to family, friends, and professionals for support. It is also important to document any interactions with the alienator, as this can be used as evidence in court if necessary. It is also important to set boundaries and be firm in enforcing them. If the alienator is not respecting your boundaries, it is important to seek legal advice

Examples of an obsessed alienator

1. The alienator who spends hours each day monitoring their target’s social media accounts and activities.

2. The alienator who constantly badmouths their target to anyone who will listen.

3. The alienator who goes out of their way to sabotage their target’s relationships with friends and family.

4. The alienator who relentlessly spreads rumors and lies about their target.

5. The alienator who refuses to allow their target to have any contact

Q & A perspecticide

What is perspecticide?

Perspecticide is a neologism used to describe the act of deliberately and systematically destroying or distorting another person’s perspective. It is often used in the context of political or ideological debates, where one party attempts to discredit the other’s point of view by attacking their beliefs or values.

Why do people use perspecticide?

Perspecticide is a term used to describe the intentional destruction of another person’s perspective or point of view. It is often used to describe the actions of people who are trying to control or manipulate another person’s thoughts and feelings. It is a form of psychological abuse and can be used to manipulate, control, and intimidate another person.

Examples of perspecticide in families?

1. Alienation: When one family member is isolated or excluded from the family unit, either through physical or emotional means.

2. Gaslighting: When one family member attempts to manipulate another family member into questioning their own reality or sanity.

3. Emotional Abuse: When one family member uses verbal or emotional abuse to control or manipulate another family member.

4. Financial Abuse: When one family member uses financial control or manipulation to gain power over another family member

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