How a psychopath recruits flying monkeys

The term “flying monkeys” refers to people who are manipulated and recruited by a psychopath to do their bidding and engage in destructive behaviors. Psychopaths often use these individuals to isolate, intimidate, and control their victims.

Here are some common tactics that psychopaths may use to recruit flying monkeys:

  1. Charm and manipulation: Psychopaths are often very skilled at charming and manipulating others. They may use their charm to recruit individuals who are easily swayed by their charisma.
  2. Lies and deception: Psychopaths may spread lies and rumors about their victims to turn others against them. They may also create fake personas or exaggerate their accomplishments to win over new recruits.
  3. Intimidation and coercion: Psychopaths may use threats and intimidation to coerce others into doing their bidding. They may also use blackmail or other forms of manipulation to gain control over their targets.
  4. Emotional manipulation: Psychopaths may use emotional manipulation to elicit sympathy and support from others. They may play the victim or use guilt-tripping to make others feel responsible for their problems.
  5. Reward and punishment: Psychopaths may reward individuals who comply with their wishes and punish those who do not. They may use praise, gifts, or other forms of positive reinforcement to encourage compliance, while using threats, insults, or other forms of negative reinforcement to discourage resistance.

It’s important to note that not all individuals who support a psychopath’s destructive behaviors are intentionally doing so. Some may be unknowingly manipulated or may be acting out of a misguided sense of loyalty. It’s important to be aware of the tactics psychopaths use to recruit flying monkeys so that you can protect yourself and others from their destructive influence.


Encouraging someone to experience the same trauma you went through!

I have spent many years working alongside therapists and PA specialists helping and encouraging alienated parents not to go through the experience I endured. I am very open and honest with people and do not encourage false expectations and tell it how it is. I am not here to make friends and influence people!

Sadly there are many people out there who do!!

Many years ago I had a friend (no longer) who tried to encourage me to stay with my physically and emotionally abusive husband, her words were “dont give up your wonderful lifestyle”. She had chosen to stay, that was her decision but definitely not for me.

She was an alienated child herself for many years, alienated from her mother. It was only when her mother died and she found many letters (a little too late) that she realised that she had been alienated from her mother for many years. She told me that she deeply regretted not being in touch with her mother whilst she was still alive, and suffered with guilt for many years.

For a long time I thought my SIL and ex husband were responsible for alienating me from my daughter, grandson and grand daughter, but after years of therapy I realised that this was not the case. My daughter would contact me after years of no contact, when she either wanted money, or was in trouble with the police. I was so desperate for a relationship I fell for it many many times, and yes you know how the story goes, as soon as she got what she wanted (usually money) dumped for another few years. Sadly this is the fallout from PA and often happens to many of my clients.

She is now friendly with the women who use to be my friend, which for many years I found quite odd. But when looking at the situation at a deeper psychological  level and the help of my therapist, I can now see why.

This women wanted me to experience the same as what she was going through with her husband to make her feel better, sometimes when we meet someone experiencing the same as us, we don’t feel quite so alone and cling to the friendships for the wrong reasons.

She now feels comfortable being friends with my daughter (as I am alienated from my daughter) the same as she was many years ago!!! It probably eases her conscience and takes away the pain and guilt of not contacting her own mother.

If you find yourself in the above situation you need to look on emotional level why are you really encouraging this behaviour? You probably have unhealed wounds you need to deal with yourself.

So the moral of the story is, no matter what Trauma you have lived through, make sure you are coming from a perspective of love and healing when trying to help others. Don’t pay people lip service to gain popularity, be a true friend and help them prevent reliving your own trauma.

Be real

Be Authentic

Tell the Truth

Linda – Always By Your Side


The psychology of hypocrisy

Hypocrisy seems to be everywhere lately. How do people reconcile themselves to saying one thing and doing another? And are there benefits?

In these times of political turmoilaggressive online discourse“post-truth”society and lord knows what else, one thing is hard to deny: there’s a lot of hypocrisy flying around. People regularly and angrily lambast others for doing something, while doing pretty much the exact same thing themselves.

What is the root cause of hypocrisy?

At the root of hypocrisy is fear and low self-esteem. We use hypocrisy to avoid looking at our shortcomings and figure out our part in it. It typically stems from a sincere belief that we should not be held to the same standards as others because we have better intentions. Our belief is juster, nobler, and sincerer.

At the root of hypocrisy is a strong desire to be loved and accepted. The fear of humility and judgment is so powerful, that we use doublethink and cognitive dissonance to avoid facing ourselves.

Bystander Effect

This is a true story. A parent recently made a call to the local Family Maintenance Enforcement Program, which had indicated by letter that should he have any concerns about ongoing child support issues, he could call the agency to discuss matters. His “concern” had in fact escalated over a period of thirteen years of forced estrangement from his child to a profound fear for the health and well-being of his son, now in his early twenties. Despite the invitation to call the agency, the curt reply to his desperate entreaties to the program officer was, first, that parental alienation was not an issue of professional concern to the agency as “the jury is still out on whether parental alienation even exists”; and second, that there was absolutely nothing the agency could do for him. The call was then abruptly ended by the program officer.

Tragically, this lack of response is routinely reported by parents alienated from their children, who seek the help of legal, child welfare and mental health professionals, and anyone who will listen to them, in a desperate attempt to find someone to intervene in this serious abuse of their children. As they muster the courage to break through shame and speak about their fears, anxiety, and profound grief, they continue to be subjected to a mean-spirited cultural response, where their woundedness is often ignored or, worse, mocked and ridiculed. In the rare instances where parents are listened to, there is rarely any offer of support in regard to the alienation. These responses are illustrations of the “bystander effect,” which is the typical response not only of lay people but also, alarmingly, of child and family professionals, to reports of parental alienation.

In such an atmosphere alienated parents feel cut off and further alienated, isolated and alone, and their children remain at risk. The bystander effect is an attitude of indifference and apathy, a simple refusal to get involved or offer assistance to another in need. Most alienated parents are thus justifiably afraid of disclosing the alienation, trauma and abuse suffered by their children and themselves. They are repeatedly subjected to the bystander effect, particularly by professional helpers.

The “professional bystander” effect, where the lack of action of others discourages a professional service provider from intervening in an emergency situation, applies to the phenomenon of parental alienation; and the main features of the bystander effect, including ambiguity, a reticence to act, lack of empathy, perceiving abuse as “normal” human behavior, fear of becoming a target, and diffusion of responsibility, are all present in regard to parental alienation situations in which professionals become involved. Ambivalence and ambiguity exist among professionals despite what the research says about parental alienation; often, rather than immersing and educating themselves in the research, professionals monitor the reactions of other service providers to determine if it is necessary to intervene. If it is determined that others are not reacting to the situation, bystanders will interpret the situation as not an emergency and will not intervene, an example of pluralistic ignorance.  Few people want to be the first to take action in ambiguous situations, particularly if they lack empathy in regard to the suffering of those affected; and they are slow to help a victim because they believe someone else will take responsibility. This is where the denial of parental alienation among some in the mental health field is most harmful.

The bystander phenomenon is particularly tragic and alarming because parental alienation is one of the most serious, yet largely unrecognized, forms of psychological abuse toward children, and affects a much larger number of North Americans than previously assumed. Alienating parents’ behavior constitutes psychological abuse when they manipulate and influence children to participate in depriving themselves of love, nurturance, and involvement with their other parent. Denial of and indifference to this form of abuse of children is reminiscent of society’s denial in the early twentieth century of the prevalence of physical and sexual abuse of children (Warshak, 2015). Parental alienation is also a form of psychological domestic violence, as the suffering of targeted parents is deep and unending, and represents a complex trauma of profound magnitude (Kruk, 2011). According to Bernet (2010), there is not only a large body of research validating the existence and harms of parental alienation, with over 500 articles on the subject, but also the published testimonies of thousands of adults who attest to having suffered through it as children, and other parents who are currently traumatized, watching helplessly as their relationships with their children are being destroyed. Harman & Biringen (in press) sampled a representative poll of adults in the United States, and found a startling rate of 13.4% of parents reporting that they have been alienated from one or more of their children by the other parent, with half of those reporting the alienation as severe. This percentage represents approximately 10.5 million parents in the US alone who are facing what they perceive to be parental alienation. The sheer magnitude of parental alienation indicates that this is a major social problem and a social justice issue for children and families. This takes the issue out of the realm of disinterested reportage and into the realm of action.

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