Category: flying monkeys

How a psychopath recruits flying monkeys

The term “flying monkeys” refers to people who are manipulated and recruited by a psychopath to do their bidding and engage in destructive behaviors. Psychopaths often use these individuals to isolate, intimidate, and control their victims.

Here are some common tactics that psychopaths may use to recruit flying monkeys:

  1. Charm and manipulation: Psychopaths are often very skilled at charming and manipulating others. They may use their charm to recruit individuals who are easily swayed by their charisma.
  2. Lies and deception: Psychopaths may spread lies and rumors about their victims to turn others against them. They may also create fake personas or exaggerate their accomplishments to win over new recruits.
  3. Intimidation and coercion: Psychopaths may use threats and intimidation to coerce others into doing their bidding. They may also use blackmail or other forms of manipulation to gain control over their targets.
  4. Emotional manipulation: Psychopaths may use emotional manipulation to elicit sympathy and support from others. They may play the victim or use guilt-tripping to make others feel responsible for their problems.
  5. Reward and punishment: Psychopaths may reward individuals who comply with their wishes and punish those who do not. They may use praise, gifts, or other forms of positive reinforcement to encourage compliance, while using threats, insults, or other forms of negative reinforcement to discourage resistance.

It’s important to note that not all individuals who support a psychopath’s destructive behaviors are intentionally doing so. Some may be unknowingly manipulated or may be acting out of a misguided sense of loyalty. It’s important to be aware of the tactics psychopaths use to recruit flying monkeys so that you can protect yourself and others from their destructive influence.

 

Fake Friend

Learning to live with the heartbreak of family betrayal by Flying Monkeys

People who betray friends and family members in order to elevate their own social status in and among toxic peers or toxic family members are guilty of a double moral crime — overlooking and subsequently enabling abuse.

Mobbing — meaning ganging up to talk trash, menace, and humiliate a target while banding together and taking pride from feelings of social inclusion — is truly one of the least attractive sides of human psychological compulsion to witness. Especially when you are the Frankenstein monster of sorts being hunted by toxic family members or targeted.

Flying Monkeys take several forms when and if they elect to jump on the bandwagon in order to make themselves feel like part of the “in crowd”. In their manner of vertical (rather than horizontal) thinking, in order for them to feel successful, there has to be a winner — but more importantly, they must then totally socially, personally, and most oftentimes professionally annihilate anyone they deem a LOSER.

Source: Learning to live with the heartbreak of family betrayal by Flying Monkeys

Enablers & Flying Monkeys

After yesterdays post it got me thinking!

I remember asking the long term friend for my daughters address, as I had not seen my daughter for 4 years. I knew they where living in the same village. I asked her when she met with my daughter if she would remind her of the good times when she was young, after all the friend had known me and my daughter from the age of 2 to 11. I enquired if she had any old photos she could pass on as my ex had destroyed every family photo (according to my daughter).

Her answers to all my questions where no, she did not know where my daughter was living. Yes, she would pass on any photos from birthdays etc when she saw her. After all she was a mother of 2 daughters herself, one the same age as my own. I would imagine any mother would want to do the same knowing my situation.

Yes all of you alienated parents know how it goes!!

Years later I did get the chance to spend time with my daughter. And no she never ever received any photos, and yes the (Ex Friend) did know exactly where my daughter was living, in fact it was the very same village.

These are the people who enable Parental Alienation, these are the flying monkeys who only have self interest.

Make sure you really know the people around you, ensure they are friends and family you can trust to help your situation, not hinder it and make things worse.

“The Monkeys caught Dorothy in their arms and flew away with her.”

So when you hear the expression FLYING MONKEYS, you know exactly what this means.

Linda – Always By Your Side

Encouraging someone to experience the same trauma you went through!

I have spent many years working alongside therapists and PA specialists helping and encouraging alienated parents not to go through the experience I endured. I am very open and honest with people and do not encourage false expectations and tell it how it is. I am not here to make friends and influence people!

Sadly there are many people out there who do!!

Many years ago I had a friend (no longer) who tried to encourage me to stay with my physically and emotionally abusive husband, her words were “dont give up your wonderful lifestyle”. She had chosen to stay, that was her decision but definitely not for me.

She was an alienated child herself for many years, alienated from her mother. It was only when her mother died and she found many letters (a little too late) that she realised that she had been alienated from her mother for many years. She told me that she deeply regretted not being in touch with her mother whilst she was still alive, and suffered with guilt for many years.

For a long time I thought my SIL and ex husband were responsible for alienating me from my daughter, grandson and grand daughter, but after years of therapy I realised that this was not the case. My daughter would contact me after years of no contact, when she either wanted money, or was in trouble with the police. I was so desperate for a relationship I fell for it many many times, and yes you know how the story goes, as soon as she got what she wanted (usually money) dumped for another few years. Sadly this is the fallout from PA and often happens to many of my clients.

She is now friendly with the women who use to be my friend, which for many years I found quite odd. But when looking at the situation at a deeper psychological  level and the help of my therapist, I can now see why.

This women wanted me to experience the same as what she was going through with her husband to make her feel better, sometimes when we meet someone experiencing the same as us, we don’t feel quite so alone and cling to the friendships for the wrong reasons.

She now feels comfortable being friends with my daughter (as I am alienated from my daughter) the same as she was many years ago!!! It probably eases her conscience and takes away the pain and guilt of not contacting her own mother.

If you find yourself in the above situation you need to look on emotional level why are you really encouraging this behaviour? You probably have unhealed wounds you need to deal with yourself.

So the moral of the story is, no matter what Trauma you have lived through, make sure you are coming from a perspective of love and healing when trying to help others. Don’t pay people lip service to gain popularity, be a true friend and help them prevent reliving your own trauma.

Be real

Be Authentic

Tell the Truth

Linda – Always By Your Side

 

The psychology of hypocrisy

Hypocrisy seems to be everywhere lately. How do people reconcile themselves to saying one thing and doing another? And are there benefits?

In these times of political turmoil, aggressive online discourse, “post-truth”society and lord knows what else, one thing is hard to deny: there’s a lot of hypocrisy flying around. People regularly and angrily lambast others for doing something, while doing pretty much the exact same thing themselves.

https://www.theguardian.com/science/brain-flapping/2016/nov/17/its-only-wrong-when-you-do-it-the-psychology-of-hypocrisy

What is the root cause of hypocrisy?

At the root of hypocrisy is fear and low self-esteem. We use hypocrisy to avoid looking at our shortcomings and figure out our part in it. It typically stems from a sincere belief that we should not be held to the same standards as others because we have better intentions. Our belief is juster, nobler, and sincerer.

At the root of hypocrisy is a strong desire to be loved and accepted. The fear of humility and judgment is so powerful, that we use doublethink and cognitive dissonance to avoid facing ourselves.

https://www.straighttalkcounseling.org/post/the-psychology-of-hypocrisy-why-we-do-it-how-to-stop

Hypocrite

If you accuse someone of being a hypocrite, you mean that they pretend to have qualities, beliefs, or feelings that they do not really have.

Synonyms: fraud [informal], deceiver, pretender, charlatan

a person who pretends to be what he or she is not

a person who pretends to be what he or she is not; one who pretends to be better than is really so, or to be pious, virtuous, etc. without really being so

a person who pretends to have virtues, moral or religious beliefs, principles, etc., that he or she does not actually possess, esp. a person whose actions belie stated beliefs

a person who feigns some desirable or publicly approved attitude, esp. one whose private life, opinions, or statements belie his or her public statements

The only thing worse than a liar is a liar that’s also a hypocrite!

Tennessee Williams

And what sort of lives do these people, who pose as being moral, lead themselves? My dear fellow, you forget that we are in the native land of the hypocrite.

OSCAR WILDE

Be hypocritical, be cautious, be
Not what you seem but always what you see.

LORD BYRON

A hypocrite is one who sets good examples only when he has an audience.

ANONYMOUS

Flying Monkeys

 

  • One, a so called friend from the past who left me suicidal many years ago. Said it was me or the car (Brand new Toyota white MR2), my ex had damaged many cars during and after the divorce, so it was the car! Plus my daughter and ex know her dirty little secret and will use it to their advantage.
  • Two, someone who befriended me so she could sleep with my ex during the divorce and support his campaign to alienate my two children. She thought she was in with a chance, but in reality she had no chance. He would sleep with anyone if he thought he could gain an advantage in court.
  • The ex wife of my current husband, say no more!!!
  • The rest of them just stupid and gullible!

From a psychological point of view, you have to ask the question.

“Why would a daughter recruit people who had done this to their mother so many years later?”

Recruiting Flying Monkeys

In this video you’ll learn about the role of flying monkeys, who are the flying monkeys, and how the narcissist recruits flying monkeys to do their bidding against the target. Dealing with the Flying Monkeys of the narcissist or other abuser can be a horrible experience. The flying monkeys could be doing the bidding of your ex, your family members, a friend, your boss or coworkers, or anyone else in the community who decided to target you. You’ll also get a Survival Guide for dealing with flying monkeys! 🎁Get the FREE eBook: Quick Start Guide to Recovery After Narcissistic Abuse when you enter your name and email on the homepage — http://www.innerintegration.com/

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