Helping Children with Emotional Regulation

The aim of the present study was to examine the moderating role of parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous system functioning on the relationship between child temperament and emotion regulation. Sixty-two 4.5-year olds (31 females) were rated by their parents on temperamental surgency. Respiratory sinus arrhythmia (RSA) and pre-ejection period (PEP) were measured at baseline and in reaction to an interaction with an unfamiliar person and a cognitive test. The preschoolers’ ability to self-regulate emotion was assessed in response to a disappointment. Results revealed little or no PEP reactivity to the unfamiliar person to be related to poorer emotion regulation for children high in surgency, indicating that the lack of sympathetic activation may be a risk factor for behavioral maladjustment. Reciprocal sympathetic activation, or increases in sympathetic activity accompanied by decreases in parasympathetic activity, was associated with better regulation of emotion for all levels of temperamental surgency supporting previous work that reciprocal activation is an adaptive form of autonomic control.

Family Trees

Time to break the cycle

Time to break the cycle

Breaking the Cycle

Lifes all about who you meet on the way!!!

To all those people throughout the years
who have stood beside me and witnessed my tears.

When everything I had was taken from me
and all I had left was my sanity,
All of you showed so much generosity
without taking away my dignity.

To Jackie and Roger who lent me a house
when I had not much more than a little church mouse

To John who sent flowers when I was fighting in court
and stayed around even though I was fraught.

There’s Jane who I’ve known for 30+ years
who’s been by my side and witnessed my fears.

Divine Light who gave me the gift of Reiki
which I will always have and will never forsake me.

Now I have friends living in France,
we love to party, sing and dance.

My family are loving and very forgiving
and made me realise that life is worth living.

Last but not least is my soul mate Paul
who’s always there when I’m ready to fall.

I surrounded by people who really care
who are generous and loving and always there.

Here I am now living in Spain
I will probably never see my children again
I have made a new life full of love and laughter
And will  live out my years forever and after

Singing and dancing living life to the full
Living in Spain will never be dull
How lucky I am to live this life
Free of toxicity, trouble and strife

Life is about who meet on the way
some will move on and some will stay.

But to all of them I would just like to say
a great big THANK YOU for coming my way.



Child Focused CBT

The mental health professional responsible to implement a court-mandated, child-centered
reunification intervention may review a sheaf of documents, interview each parent and the child, and
still fail to understand why the child has allied with Parent A and rejected Parent B. In the typical case,
Parent A alleges that Parent B has been abusive or neglectful, absent or inappropriate and is, therefore,
deserving of the child’s rejection. Parent B, of course, minimizes or denies these allegations and
argues with equal conviction that Parent A has undermined the parent–child relationship
(Albertson-Kelly & Burkhard, 2013; Drozd & Olesen, 2004; Meier, 2010). Both may be credible and
both may be true. Police reports, child protective service investigations, psychological test reports, and
various mental health professionals will all weigh in on the matter, often without consensus or
conclusion. Thus, “[t]he child’s vehement expressed negative emotions and rejection [of Parent B]
may be as consistent with child alienation as well as a child who has been neglected and abused or
exposed to domestic violence” (Sullivan, Ward, & Deutsch, 2010, p. 117).
For better or worse, the reunification therapist is seldom charged with determining the causes of the
parent–child schism and may never know the truth of the matter. Instead, “this therapist aims to take
a neutral and even-handed position of deliberately not taking sides” (DeJong & Davies, 2012, p. 188)
so as to give the child the opportunity to enjoy a healthy relationship with both parents. This first
requires that the therapist establish a trusting rapport with the child. Weitzman (2013) captures this
idea concisely:


Om Shanti Om

I wish you great success, health, love and happiness!

Coaching & Therapy. Fully Qualified EMDR NLP CBT

Coaching & Therapy. Fully Qualified EMDR NLP CBT 

Ways to Heal From Trauma

Accept Support

Connect With Others

Physical Movement

Work With Your Feelings

Practice Self-Care

Avoid Recreational Substances

Practice Mindfulness or Meditation

Engage in Creativity

Find the Right Help

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