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Linda C J Turner

Linda Turner is a compassionate and dedicated trauma therapist with a deep commitment to helping individuals overcome the lasting effects of trauma and Parental Alienation. With 5 years of experience in the mental health field, and over 20 years experience with Parental Alienation Linda provides a safe and supportive space for clients to heal, grow, and reclaim their lives. Lindas therapeutic approach combines evidence-based interventions with a genuine and empathetic presence to empower individuals on their healing journey.

Education and Credentials:

Linda Turner studied to be a therapist whilst living in France and qualified in

  • Counseling Skills Diploma completed with 100% Distinction.
  • NLP Practitioner Course completed with 95% Distinction
  • Advanced CBT Diploma
  • Hypnosis Masters Diploma
  • Life Coaching Diploma
  • Emotional Intelligence Diploma

And  specializies in trauma-focused therapy.  Throughout her educational and own personal  journey, she gained a comprehensive understanding of trauma’s complex impacts and acquired the necessary skills to facilitate healing and resilience in clients.

Professional Experience:

Linda Turner has gained valuable experience in diverse settings, including community mental health support, trauma-focused organizations NAAP – National Association of Alienated Parents

and is a member or the PASG – Parental Alienation Study Group.She has worked with a broad range of clients helping them navigate through various types of trauma, such as interpersonal violence, childhood abuse, accidents, and natural disasters and COVID

Areas of Expertise:

As a trauma therapist,Linda specializes in the following areas:

  1. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): she is proficient in assessing and treating individuals struggling with PTSD, utilizing evidence-based interventions to alleviate symptoms and promote recovery.
  2. Complex Trauma and Childhood Abuse: Linda has extensive experience working with individuals who have experienced long-term or repeated trauma, including childhood abuse, neglect, and attachment-related issues.
  3. Relationship Trauma: She provides support to individuals and couples who have experienced trauma within their relationships, helping them rebuild trust, establish healthy boundaries, and foster connection.
  4. Cultural Sensitivity: Linda is deeply committed to providing trauma therapy that is sensitive to diverse cultural backgrounds and identities. She recognizes the importance of understanding the unique intersections of culture, identity, and trauma to ensure clients receive culturally competent care.

Approach to Therapy:

Lindas therapeutic approach is grounded in trauma-informed care, empathy, and collaboration. She creates a safe and non-judgmental space where clients feel heard, validated, and empowered to share their experiences. Linda integrates various evidence-based modalities, such as Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and mindfulness techniques, tailoring the treatment to meet each client’s specific needs and goals.

Contributions to the Field:

In addition to her clinical work, Linda actively engages in ongoing professional development, staying up-to-date with the latest research and advancements in trauma therapy. She is passionate about advocacy, community education, and reducing the stigma surrounding mental health and trauma. Linda has conducted workshops, given presentations, sharing her expertise and contributing to the field’s growth.

With her empathetic nature, clinical expertise, and commitment to empowering individuals, Linda continues to make a significant impact on the lives of trauma survivors. She guides clients towards healing, resilience, and the ability to create a meaningful and fulfilling life beyond trauma.

Linda – Always By Your Side

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LINDA C J TURNER PERSONALITY DISORDERS Q & A with #LindaCJTurner

“divide and conquer”

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It is not uncommon for individuals with manipulative tendencies, including psychopaths, to try to create antagonisms or distance among the people they deceive. This tactic is known as “divide and conquer” and is aimed at preventing their victims from comparing notes and discovering the lies or manipulations they have employed.

By creating conflicts or fostering misunderstandings between the people they deceive, psychopaths can maintain control over the situation and avoid being exposed. They may spread false information, instigate conflicts, or manipulate emotions to keep their victims isolated and unaware of the truth.

Psychopaths are skilled at manipulating others and exploiting their vulnerabilities. Creating divisions and preventing open communication among the people they deceive is a way for them to continue their deceptive behavior without being discovered.

It’s important to note that not all individuals who exhibit manipulative tendencies or engage in such tactics are psychopaths. Other personality disorders or manipulative behaviors can also lead to similar actions. If you suspect that someone may be using these tactics, it’s essential to maintain open communication and seek support from trusted individuals or professionals who can provide guidance and assistance.

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FREE – Global Online Event

Good afternoon

Have you or someone you care about experienced emotional abuse?

Some signs of emotional abuse are:

  • Jealous, possessive behavior
  • Harsh criticism & belittling
  • Shaming & blaming
  • Controlling behaviors & manipulation 
  • Constant arguing or opposing
  • Name-calling & trivializing the other person’s concerns
  • Withholding affection & gaslighting
  • Silent treatment, exploitation, isolating from others & more

If you’ve experienced emotional abuse…you are not alone.

It is estimated that 23% of women and 16% of men have experienced emotional abuse from a partner. (And that’s not including emotional abuse from family, friends, colleagues, etc.)

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I am honoured to be a featured speaker during this 7-day immersion event, talking about Breaking Free From Emotional Abuse & Manipulation -Parental Alienation.

Click here to save your spot for this life-changing online event now. 

Here is the lineup of other teachers speaking during the online event:

Dr. Margaret Paul, Rebecca Zung, Kyle Benson, Julie Hall, Dr. Joe Rubino, Dr. Ameet Aggarwal, Renee Swanson, KP Khalsa, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, Danu Morrigan, Stacy Hoch, Dave Berger, Ronia Fraser, Scott Kiloby, Dr. Sherrie Campbell, Dr. Raja Selvam, Annie Kaszina, Rachel Grant, Carolin Hauser, Karen McMahon, Stacy Brookman, Marquita Johnson, Julie Schiffman, Rhonda Noordyk, Leah Marie Mazur,  & more.

After you register, keep an eye out for AVAIYA’s email for specific details on accessing these free classes. (Replays will be available for 24 hours after each class airs).

To your emotional healing,

Linda C J Turner 

http://LindaCJTurner.com

http://Parentalalienationpas.com

P.S. Please forward this email to anyone you think would benefit from these transformational classes. Thank you for sharing!

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Q & A -Conspiring with others to reinforce the programming

"The Monkeys caught Dorothy in their arms and flew away with her."

In cases of severe parental alienation, it is not uncommon for the alienating parent to conspire with others to reinforce the programming or manipulation of the child. This can involve enlisting the support of family members, friends, or other individuals who are close to the child or have influence over them.

Conspiring with others serves to validate and reinforce the alienating parent’s narrative and actions, making it more difficult for the child to question or resist the alienation. Some ways in which conspiring can occur include:

  1. Spreading false information: The alienating parent may involve others in spreading false information or negative narratives about the targeted parent. This can involve sharing distorted stories, making false accusations, or manipulating facts to paint the targeted parent in a negative light.
  2. Aligning perspectives: The alienating parent may actively seek out individuals who share their negative views of the targeted parent and encourage the child to spend time with these individuals. This creates an echo chamber of negativity and reinforces the alienating messages the child receives.
  3. Limiting contact with supportive individuals: The alienating parent may try to limit the child’s contact with individuals who may offer a different perspective or challenge the alienation. This can include restricting access to extended family members, therapists, or friends who may provide a supportive and balanced environment for the child.

Conspiring with others to reinforce the programming can further isolate the child and make it more difficult for them to break free from the alienation.

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Q & A – Revising history to erase positive memories

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Revising history to erase positive memories is a behavior commonly observed in cases of parental alienation. The alienating parent may engage in tactics aimed at distorting or erasing positive memories that the child has with the targeted parent. These tactics can include:

  1. Denial or dismissal: The alienating parent may deny or dismiss positive experiences or memories that the child has with the targeted parent. They may downplay or discredit any positive interactions or events that occurred between the child and the targeted parent.
  2. Fabrication of negative narratives: The alienating parent may create false or exaggerated negative stories or events about the targeted parent, which can overshadow and distort the positive memories the child has. They may invent false accusations, incidents, or behaviors to tarnish the image of the targeted parent in the child’s mind.
  3. Negative reinforcement: The alienating parent may consistently reinforce negative views or attitudes towards the targeted parent, emphasizing any perceived flaws or mistakes and minimizing any positive aspects. This ongoing negative reinforcement can shape the child’s perception of the targeted parent and diminish the importance of positive memories.

By revising history and erasing positive memories, the alienating parent aims to create a narrative that aligns with their agenda of alienating the child from the targeted parent. It is a manipulative tactic that can contribute to the deterioration of the parent-child relationship and further entrench the alienation dynamics.

Recognizing and addressing this behavior is crucial for the well-being of the child and the restoration of a healthy parent-child bond. It requires intervention from mental health professionals experienced in parental alienation to help the child process and navigate the manipulation, restore accurate memories, and foster healthy relationships based on truth and authenticity.

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Q & A – What is illusory truth effect?

Repeating false ideas can indeed have an impact on memory and perception. The more a false idea or belief is repeated, the more likely it is for it to be perceived as true and potentially embedded in memory. This phenomenon is known as the illusory truth effect or the reiteration effect.

The illusory truth effect suggests that familiarity and repetition can lead individuals to perceive information as more valid or true, even if it is false. This effect occurs because the brain tends to rely on heuristics or mental shortcuts to process information, and repeated exposure to a particular idea can create a sense of familiarity and credibility.

When false ideas are repeatedly presented, they can become more accessible in memory, making it easier for individuals to recall and believe them. This can occur even if the information contradicts objective evidence or facts.

It is important to be cautious about the repetition of false ideas and to critically evaluate information from reliable and credible sources. Engaging in critical thinking, fact-checking, and seeking multiple perspectives can help guard against the influence of false or misleading information and prevent the formation of inaccurate beliefs or memories.

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The “pseudomature” child and the “entitlement monster.”

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Hotchkiss discusses two types of children affected by narcissistic parenting: the “pseudomature” child and the “entitlement monster.”

  1. Pseudomature child: According to Hotchkiss, the pseudomature child is a product of narcissistic parenting and may appear to have skipped over typical childhood experiences. They are forced to mature prematurely and develop a false self that appears more competent than they actually are. This false self is often a result of adapting to the needs and expectations of the emotionally bankrupt parent, rather than being able to develop their own authentic self.
  2. Entitlement monster: The entitlement monster is described as being held captive in the parent’s narcissistic bubble. This term suggests that the child is excessively entitled and may display behaviors and attitudes of entitlement, possibly due to the reinforcement and validation they receive from the narcissistic parent. They may lack empathy and have difficulty understanding the needs and perspectives of others.

Both the pseudomature child and the entitlement monster are thought to have difficulties separating from their emotionally bankrupt parent and may struggle to develop their own independent identity. Their behaviors and self-perceptions are influenced by the narcissistic parent’s needs and expectations, rather than being based on their true selves.

Reference from Hotchkiss (2003, pp. 56-57).

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Q & A – Signs of Severely alienated children

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Severely alienated children may exhibit various psychological signs and behaviors as a result of the ongoing manipulation and negative influence they experience. These signs and behaviors can vary in severity and can manifest differently in each child. Here are some common psychological signs and behaviors associated with severely alienated children:

  1. Rejection or hostility towards the targeted parent: The child may express consistent and unwarranted rejection, hatred, or extreme hostility towards the targeted parent. They may refuse contact, deny a relationship, or speak negatively about the parent without genuine justification.
  2. Unwavering support for the alienating parent: The child may align strongly with the alienating parent, showing unwavering loyalty and defense towards them. They may adopt the alienating parent’s perspectives and beliefs as their own, even when they are irrational or baseless.
  3. Lack of ambivalence or guilt: Severely alienated children often show a complete absence of mixed feelings or guilt about their treatment of the targeted parent. They may dismiss any positive memories or experiences they had with the targeted parent and refuse to acknowledge any wrongdoing or negative impact.
  4. Lack of empathy: The child may demonstrate a limited ability to empathize with the targeted parent’s emotions or experiences. They may show little concern for the distress caused by their rejection or participate in the emotional manipulation of the alienating parent.
  5. Parroting and rehearsed responses: Severely alienated children may use scripted language or rehearsed responses when discussing the targeted parent or the reasons for their rejection. They may display a lack of independent thought or critical thinking when discussing the situation.
  6. Fear of abandonment or punishment: The child may exhibit a fear of abandonment or punishment from the alienating parent if they were to show any positive feelings or maintain a relationship with the targeted parent. This fear can contribute to their compliance with the alienation dynamics.

It is important to note that not all children who experience parental alienation will exhibit all of these signs and behaviors. The severity and manifestation of these indicators can vary depending on individual circumstances and the duration and intensity of the alienation.

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Q & A – The alienator is in denial?

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It is indeed a challenging aspect of severe parental alienation that when a child engages in self-harm behaviors, such as “head-banging” or self-mutilation, the targeted parent may be wrongly accused of lying or exaggerating by the alienating parent or others involved. This situation further complicates the already difficult dynamics and can hinder the child’s access to appropriate support and intervention.

In cases of severe parental alienation, the alienating parent may actively dismiss or deny the child’s self-harming behaviors as a means to protect their own image and discredit the targeted parent. This can cause significant distress for the targeted parent, as their concerns for the child’s well-being may not be taken seriously.

When faced with such a situation, it is important for the targeted parent to document and record evidence of the child’s self-harm behaviors, seek professional help, and communicate their concerns to mental health practitioners or other relevant professionals involved in the case. This can help ensure that the child receives the necessary support and intervention to address their emotional and psychological needs.

Additionally, it is important for the professionals involved to carefully evaluate the situation, consider all available information, and prioritize the child’s well-being when assessing the allegations made by both parents. Professional expertise, thorough assessments, and unbiased evaluations are crucial in addressing the complexities of severe parental alienation and protecting the best interests of the child involved.

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Q & A – PA How does it affect children?

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Parental alienation can indeed have profound emotional and psychological effects on children, potentially leading to various negative outcomes.

In extreme cases, where the child has been subjected to long-term and severe alienation, there have been reports of heightened hostility, anger, or even violence towards the targeted parent. It is distressing when children develop such intense negative emotions towards someone they once loved and may result in harmful behaviors or self-destructive tendencies.

In some extreme cases of severe parental alienation, there have been reports of adolescents expressing thoughts of parricide or suicide towards the targeted parent. These cases are indeed highly distressing and require immediate attention and intervention.

The severity and impact of parental alienation can vary from case to case, and the specific outcomes and behaviors exhibited by the alienated child or adolescent can also differ. While such threats are not uncommon in extreme cases, it is important to emphasize that they are not representative of every situation involving parental alienation.

When faced with the potential risk of harm to oneself or others, it is crucial to prioritize the safety and well-being of all parties involved. Seeking professional help from mental health practitioners, such as therapists, psychologists, or psychiatrists, who specialize in family dynamics and child psychology, is of utmost importance.

 © Linda C J Turner