Category: Alienated children

PA Cases and court orders

1. In re Marriage of B.L. and J.L. (2020): In this case, the court found that the mother had engaged in parental alienation against the father, and ordered her to attend counseling and parenting classes.

2. In re Marriage of M.L. and J.L. (2020): In this case, the court found that the mother had engaged in parental alienation against the father, and ordered her to attend counseling and parenting classes.

A court order to attend counseling and parenting classes typically requires the person to attend a certain number of sessions with a qualified counselor or parenting instructor. The court order may also require the person to complete any assignments or tests given by the counselor or instructor. The court order may also require the person to pay for the counseling or parenting classes. The court order may also require the person to provide proof of attendance or completion of the classes.

Examples of counseling and parenting classes

Counseling:

1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

2. Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT)

3. Solution-Focused Therapy

4. Family Therapy

5. Group Therapy

6. Trauma-Focused Therapy

Mindfulness-Based Therapy Parenting Classes:

1. Positive Parenting 2

. Parenting with Love and Logic

3. Conscious Parenting

4. Attachment Parenting

Beware of the Malevolent Dark Triad

Think of the Dark Triad of narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism as the Bermuda Triangle – it’s perilous to get near it! The traits of all three often overlap and create personality profiles that are damaging and toxic, especially when it comes to intimate relationships, where we let our guard down.

One woman was the subject of identity fraud. Her bank accounts and credit cards were compromised. At the time, she was in love with her boyfriend who lived with her in her apartment. She was speaking regularly with the FBI and suffered extreme anxiety and emotional stress. The authorities were unsuccessful in finding the culprit.

Her fiancé was very supportive in doing research to try to find him. He comforted her, occasionally bought her gifts, and paid her monthly rent out of money she gave him. When eventually the landlord confronted her about months of delinquency, she realized that the criminal was in fact her own boyfriend, who had been pocketing her rent money, except to buy her gifts. Her denial made it difficult to accept the truth about his ruthless gaslighting. Continue reading “Beware of the Malevolent Dark Triad”

Helping Children with Emotional Regulation

The aim of the present study was to examine the moderating role of parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous system functioning on the relationship between child temperament and emotion regulation. Sixty-two 4.5-year olds (31 females) were rated by their parents on temperamental surgency. Respiratory sinus arrhythmia (RSA) and pre-ejection period (PEP) were measured at baseline and in reaction to an interaction with an unfamiliar person and a cognitive test. The preschoolers’ ability to self-regulate emotion was assessed in response to a disappointment. Results revealed little or no PEP reactivity to the unfamiliar person to be related to poorer emotion regulation for children high in surgency, indicating that the lack of sympathetic activation may be a risk factor for behavioral maladjustment. Reciprocal sympathetic activation, or increases in sympathetic activity accompanied by decreases in parasympathetic activity, was associated with better regulation of emotion for all levels of temperamental surgency supporting previous work that reciprocal activation is an adaptive form of autonomic control.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/50378084_Temperament_and_Emotion_Regulation_The_Role_of_Autonomic_Nervous_System_Reactivity

Q & A – Adult Alienated Child

Behaviours of adult alienated children

Adult alienated children may display a range of behaviours, including:

• Avoidance of contact with the alienated parent

• Difficulty forming and maintaining relationships

• Low self-esteem

• Anxiety and depression

• Difficulty trusting others

• Difficulty expressing emotions

• Difficulty with intimacy

• Difficulty with decision-making

• Difficulty with problem-solving

• Difficulty with communication

• Difficulty with conflict resolution

• Difficulty with assertiveness

• Difficulty with boundaries

• Difficulty with self

Treatment for adult alienated children

Treatment for adult alienated children typically involves a combination of individual and family therapy. Individual therapy can help the adult child process their feelings of alienation and develop healthier coping strategies. Family therapy can help the family members understand the dynamics of alienation and work together to create a healthier family environment. Additionally, it can help the family members learn how to communicate more effectively and build stronger relationships. Other interventions may include education about alienation, support groups, and activities that promote connection and understanding.

Dysfunctional Family Dynamics: Don’t Talk, Don’t Trust, Don’t Feel | Happily Imperfect

Dysfunctional family rules

As Claudia Black said in her book It Will Never Happen to Me, alcoholic (and dysfunctional) families follow three unspoken rules:

1) Don’t talk. We don’t talk about our family problems – to each other or to outsiders. This rule is the foundation for the family’s denial of the abuse, addiction, illness, etc. The message is: Act like everything is fine and make sure everyone else thinks we’re a perfectly normal family. This is extremely confusing for children who sense that something is wrong, but no one acknowledges what it is. So, children often conclude that they are the problem. Sometimes they are blamed outright and other times they internalize a sense that something must be wrong with them. Because no one is allowed to talk about the dysfunction, the family is plagued with secrets and shame. Children, in particular, feel alone, hopeless, and imagine no one else is going through what they’re experiencing.

The don’t talk rule ensures that no one acknowledges the real family problem. And when the root of the family’s problems is denied, it can never be solved; health and healing aren’t possible with this mindset.

Continue reading “Dysfunctional Family Dynamics: Don’t Talk, Don’t Trust, Don’t Feel | Happily Imperfect”

My dad trained me to doubt my memory and sanity for years – and I believed him

After I learned about gaslighting, I realized I didn’t trust my memory because he’d trained me not to, through years of lies and distortions of the truth. I finally realized that I wasn’t the insane one.

Gaslighting is often examined in the context of romantic relationships. This form of manipulation is damaging and hurtful in any relationship, but when a parent uses this tactic on a child, it can have severe consequences.

Continue reading “My dad trained me to doubt my memory and sanity for years – and I believed him”

My Life Through Parental Alienation

What do Hell and parental alienation have in common? Their both pure evil and punish their victims with torment and and deep pains.

My name is Jason and I am doing my best at surviving child abuse while dealing with parental alienation. This is my diary. This is not a dark fantasy or horror, this is real life. I’m not alone, my pain and tears have many names.

Have you ever wondered what living in Hell is like? Read this short diary from a 16 year old based on a true story. Parental alienation is something not many hear about, but most are affected by at some point in their life. Child custody issues is where you will find most of the narcissistic parental alienators, but it happens in even the most “stable” of situations with a happy family. Surviving parental alienation syndrome for a child is surviving child abuse. Until you can end the alienation, lies, and deception you will continue to die a bit each and everyday.

Do I survive parental alienation? Is surviving this form of child abuse something I can do?

 

Grab your copy today and become aware of the ramifications entire families face daily. Will I make it through? Is stepparenting something Greg can do? If you can make it to the end of the book without shedding a tea I guess you’ll find out

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Life-Through-Parental-Alienation-ebook/dp/B017YFUF26/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1453283001&sr=8-5&keywords=parental+alienation

 

Betrayal Trauma

According to the betrayal trauma theory first proposed by Jennifer Freyd of the University of Oregon, the extent of trauma associated with abuse is often linked to the level of perceived betrayal involved. Due to a fear of confrontation with the abuser and the potential loss of the abuser’s support, abuse victims are far more likely to shut out conscious recall of the abuse, even years later. Various other symptoms associated with betrayal trauma include alexithymia (inability to recognize emotions), depression, anxiety, panic attacks, suicidal behavior, anger, and physical health complaints. 

Another common problem linked to the suppression of memories surrounding betrayal trauma is dissociation. Defined by Freyd and her colleagues as, ““the lack of integration of thoughts, feelings, and experiences into the stream of consciousness,” dissociation can range from mild detachment from immediate reality (such as daydreaming) to more severe symptoms including loss of memory, fragmenting of identity, and complex posttraumatic disorder (C-PTSD).

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/media-spotlight/201406/living-betrayal

Are Hallucinations Related to Betrayal Trauma Exposure?

Betrayal trauma theory proposes that one response to betrayal may be to keep knowledge of the trauma out of conscious awareness. Although this betrayal blindness may be beneficial for survival while the abuse is ongoing because it helps maintain crucial relationships, this distortion of reality can lead to subsequent psychological and behavioral problems. The current article presents three exploratory studies that examine the associations among exposure to betrayal trauma, dissociation, and hallucinations. The first study (N ϭ 397) examined the associations between exposure to medium and high betrayal trauma and dissociation. The second study (N ϭ 199) examined the associations between exposure to low, medium, and high betrayal trauma and hallucinations. The third study (N ϭ 566) examined the associations between medium and high betrayal child and adolescent/adult sexual abuse and hallucinations. Our results suggest that exposure to betrayal trauma increases the likelihood of both dissociation and hallucinations. These findings provide further evidence that the toxic nature of betrayal in traumas has lasting effects on both cognitive and perceptual processes— dissociation and hallucinations— having implications for therapeutic treatment for individuals who have experienced betrayal traumas and related outcomes.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/280776251_Are_Hallucinations_Related_to_Betrayal_Trauma_Exposure_A_Three-Study_Exploration

Erik Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development

Stage Psychosocial Crisis Basic Virtue Age
1. Trust vs. Mistrust Hope 0 – 1½
2. Autonomy vs. Shame Will 1½ – 3
3. Initiative vs. Guilt Purpose 3 – 5
4. Industry vs. Inferiority Competency 5 – 12
5. Identity vs. Role Confusion Fidelity 12 – 18
6. Intimacy vs. Isolation Love 18 – 40
7. Generativity vs. Stagnation Care 40 – 65
8. Ego Integrity vs. Despair Wisdom 65+

https://www.simplypsychology.org/Erik-Erikson.htmlErik Erikson’s Stages of Psychosocial Development

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