Facing the truth

Facing the truth refers to the act of acknowledging and accepting reality, including facts, feelings, and experiences, even if they are difficult or uncomfortable to confront. It involves a willingness to look honestly at oneself and one’s situation, and to take responsibility for one’s actions and decisions.

Facing the truth can be challenging, as it may involve admitting to mistakes, accepting flaws or weaknesses, or confronting painful emotions or experiences. However, it is an important step towards personal growth, healing, and self-improvement.

There are several ways to face the truth, including:

  1. Being honest with oneself: This involves acknowledging and accepting one’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and taking responsibility for them.
  2. Seeking feedback from others: Asking for feedback from trusted friends, family members, or professionals can provide valuable insights into one’s strengths and weaknesses.
  3. Engaging in self-reflection: This involves taking time to reflect on one’s experiences and feelings, and exploring how they impact one’s life.
  4. Seeking professional help: A therapist or counselor can provide a safe and supportive environment for exploring one’s thoughts and feelings, and developing strategies for coping and growth.

Ultimately, facing the truth requires courage, self-awareness, and a willingness to change. It may be uncomfortable or difficult at times, but it is an essential step towards personal growth and well-being.


Q & A – How can emotional intelligence help me to heal?

Emotional intelligence can be a helpful tool in the process of healing from emotional pain or trauma. Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one’s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others. By developing emotional intelligence, individuals can gain a better understanding of their own feelings and behaviors, which can help them to cope with difficult emotions and to develop healthier relationships.

Here are some ways that emotional intelligence can be used to promote healing:

  1. Recognizing and validating emotions: Emotional intelligence involves recognizing and accepting emotions, both positive and negative, without judgment or suppression. By acknowledging and validating difficult emotions, individuals can begin to process and heal from them.
  2. Developing self-awareness: Emotional intelligence involves developing a greater understanding of one’s own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. By becoming more self-aware, individuals can identify patterns of behavior or thought that may be contributing to their emotional pain, and can work to change those patterns.
  3. Improving communication: Emotional intelligence involves being able to effectively communicate one’s own emotions and needs, as well as to understand the emotions and needs of others. By improving communication skills, individuals can build stronger and more supportive relationships, which can be an important part of the healing process.
  4. Building resilience: Emotional intelligence involves developing the ability to cope with stress, adversity, and difficult emotions. By building resilience, individuals can better withstand the challenges and setbacks that are a natural part of the healing process.

Overall, emotional intelligence can be a powerful tool in the process of healing from emotional pain or trauma. By developing greater self-awareness, improving communication, and building resilience, individuals can gain a greater sense of control over their emotions and their lives, and can move forward with greater confidence and resilience.

©Linda Turner http://parentalalienationpas.com 2023


“When things change inside you, things change around you.”





The moment one gives close attention to anything,

even a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious,

awesome, indescribably magnificent world in itself.

– Henry Miller –

This Is Your Brain on Mindfulness

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When science meets mindfulness

What scientists found was that mindfulness had a very positive effect particularly on three areas of the brain linked with our emotional centre (Baime, 2011; Ireland, 2014).

These three areas are the:

  • cortex: regulates thinking and reason (Graham, 2008) and is the part of our brain most recent to evolve – our ‘organ’ of consciousness and what makes us homo sapiens (McGill, n.d.)
  • hippocampus: integrates perceptions and emotions into memory, especially long-term memory​ (Siegel, 2015; Graham, 2008)
  • amygdale (there are two): respond to perceptions of fear and activate the ‘fight or flight’ mechanism (Graham, 2008) so whatever event stimulates the amygdale will surely cause a knee-jerk reaction​
Since the brain is highly complex and its complexities are way beyond my scope of knowledge, for the sake of understanding and simplification I’ll concentrate on these three areas as applied to trauma and human development.​

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One meaning of Hakalau is, “To stare at as in meditation and to allow to spread out.” If you’ve never tried it before, right now, this technique can be a real eye opener. Try it.

  1. Ho’ohaka: Just pick a spot on the wall to look at, preferably above eye level, so that your field of vision seems to bump up against your eyebrows, but the eyes are not so high so as to cut off the field of vision.
  2. Kuu: “To let go.” As you stare at this spot, just let your mind go loose, and focus all of your attention on the spot.
  3. Lau: “To spread out.” Notice that within a matter of moments, your vision begins to spread out, and you see more in the peripheral than you do in the central part of your vision.
  4. Hakalau: Now, pay attention to the peripheral. In fact, pay more attention to the peripheral than to the central part of your vision.
  5. Ho’okohi: Stay in this state for as long as you can. Notice how it feels. Notice the ecstatic feelings that begin to come to you as you continue the state.


Mindfulness Meditation Can Help Relieve Anxiety And Depression

One type of mindfulness training that was used in many of the research studies is calledMindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (or MBSR). It’s typically taught in eight sessions.

Think of it as Buddhist meditation “but without the Buddhism,” says Jon Kabat-Zinn, the father of MBSR. It’s completely secular.

The focus of mindfulness meditation is to train the brain to stay in the moment. To do this, practitioners are taught to let go of the regrets of the past as well as anxieties about the future.download

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