Q & A – I am going to court what is relevant and admissible evidence?

In legal contexts, relevant and admissible evidence refers to evidence that is deemed appropriate and permissible in a court of law.

Relevant evidence is evidence that tends to prove or disprove a fact in question in a legal case. For example, in a criminal case, evidence that a defendant was seen at the scene of a crime would be relevant evidence.

Admissible evidence is evidence that is allowed to be presented in court according to the rules of evidence. The rules of evidence govern what types of evidence are admissible and how they can be presented in court. For example, hearsay evidence, which is second-hand information that is offered to prove the truth of the matter asserted, is generally not admissible in court unless an exception to the hearsay rule applies.

To determine whether evidence is relevant and admissible, courts will consider factors such as whether the evidence is reliable, whether it was obtained legally, and whether it has any prejudicial effects that outweigh its probative value. It is up to the parties in a legal case to argue for or against the admission of certain evidence, and ultimately it is up to the judge to make a ruling on whether the evidence is relevant and admissible.

©Linda Turner http://parentalalienationpas.com 2023

 (DPCATT) Model

The DPCATT Model divorce is a model for divorce that focuses on the needs of the children involved. It is based on the idea that the best interests of the children should be the primary focus of the divorce process. The model emphasizes the importance of communication and cooperation between the parents, and encourages them to work together to create a parenting plan that is in the best interests of the children. The model also encourages the parents to seek out professional help.

Denial: This is the first stage of the DPCATT Model, where the individual is in denial of the fact that the marriage is ending. They may be in shock and disbelief, and may be unable to accept the reality of the situation.

Pain: This is the second stage of the DPCATT Model, where the individual begins to feel the pain of the divorce. They may experience a range of emotions, such as sadness, anger, guilt.

Discovery: This stage involves gathering information about the couple’s marriage, such as the history of the relationship, the current issues, and the couple’s goals for the future.

Preparation: During this stage, the couple will work with the therapist to identify the issues that need to be addressed and develop a plan for how to address them.

Communication: This stage focuses on improving communication between the couple.

©Linda Turner http://parentalalienationpas.com 2023

What No Divorce?

One has to ask oneself?

Why would someone make several serious accusations to the courts, police and social services?

Publicly slander someone on social media?

Recruit flying monkeys and a parent to support their outrageous claims?

Send crying emoji’s to the accused? 😭

Then two years on still no application for DIVORCE?


Reunification Camp Survivors

Elina Asensio

When Elina Asensio was 14 years old, she had a restraining order in place against her father when a court-appointed psychologist was assigned to determine whether he should be part of her life, according to ProPublica reporting.

That Colorado psychologist, Mark Kilmer, says he does not believe 90 percent of the abuse allegations he encounters in his work, or that he had been charged with domestic violence.

“Mark Kilmer’s decision affects every day of my teenage life,” Elina told ProPublica. “They let him speak for me but they wouldn’t let me speak for myself.”

In 2019, Elina’s father grabbed her from behind by her lucky charm necklace and hoodie and dragged her up a flight of stairs, according to police reports.

“Dad, I cannot breathe … You’re hurting me, stop it,” Elina said, according to the report.

Fearful the judge would use Kilmer’s recommendations to reduce her parenting time, Elina’s mother agreed to resolve the custody dispute through arbitration where she and Elina’s father agreed to equal parenting time.

Elina is tracking the days, hours and minutes on her iPhone until she turns 18 and is no longer under her father’s control.

About a month after ProPublica’s reporting, the Colorado courts suspended Kilmer last month and launched a review of the entire state-approved roster.

Multiple Colorado parents said family court custody evaluators downplayed or omitted from reports to the court the traumatic and lasting effects of abuse they said they had experienced.

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Woman Tells Her Daughter The Truth About Her Divorce 

It turns out her ex-husband lied about the divorce, telling their daughter that it was her mother who cheated.

The Redditor discovered several text messages between her daughter and her father in which her daughter described how she “didn’t want to be near” her mother and was “disgusted” by her mother’s supposed infidelity.

And her ex-husband made no attempt to tell their daughter the truth—so she decided to do so herself.

She writes that she “sat my daughter down and told her that… I won’t be held accountable for actions that weren’t mine.”

She made sure to avoid “any and all questions that I couldn’t say without [her ex-husband’s] perspective,” but broke the news to her daughter about her father’s sexuality and infidelity and how it had resulted in their divorce.

She writes that her daughter was shocked by the news, and apologized for her behavior towards her mother.


High Conflict Divorce

  • In high-conflict divorces, there are often allegations of domestic violence, child abuse, drug abuse, estrangement, or parental alienation.
  • Confirmation bias occurs when decision-makers have one theory of a case, so they ignore contrary evidence and “confirm” their theory.
  • To avoid confirmation bias, keep an open mind and thoroughly consider three possible theories in the high conflict case. 
  • Parents and lawyers should provide detailed information, and decision-makers should reassure everyone they have considered three theories.


Helpful vs. Unhelpful 

  • Family court systems like to order counseling to solve many problems, but don’t realize that the wrong kind can make things worse.
  • Many counselors are unaware of how divorcing clients can remain stuck by focusing on their upset feelings without guidance for personal growth.
  • In high-conflict divorce cases, counseling for a child alone or with just one parent can reinforce a family’s dysfunction and harm the child. 
  • Helpful divorce counseling includes self-reflection, encouragement, and an interest in changing one’s future behavior for happier relationships.


The Shaping Role of Predivorce and Postdivorce Interparental Conflict

Divorce has been conceptualized as a process. Research has extensively demonstrated that it is pre/postdivorce family environment factors that primarily account for the variability in children’s adaptation over parental divorce process rather than the legal divorce per se. Amongst various factors, interparental conflict has been consistently identified as a prominent one. Surprisingly, a single source is still lacking that comprehensively synthesizes the extant findings. This review fills this gap by integrating the numerous findings across studies into a more coherent Divorce Process and Child Adaptation Trajectory Typology (DPCATT) Model to illustrate that pre/postdivorce interparental conflict plays crucial roles in shaping child adaptation trajectories across parental divorce process. This review also summarizes the mechanisms (e.g., child cognitive and emotional processes, coparenting, parent-child relations) via which pre/postdivorce interparental conflict determines these trajectories and the factors (e.g., child gender and age, child coping, grandparental support) that interact with pre/postdivorce interparental conflict to further complicate these trajectories. In addition, echoing the call of moving beyond the monolithic conceptualization of pre/postdivorce interparental conflict, we also review studies on the differential implications of different aspects (e.g., frequency versus intensity) and types (e.g., overt versus covert) of interparental conflict for child adjustment. Last, limitations of prior studies and avenues for future research are discussed. The proposed framework may serve as a common knowledge base for researchers to compare/interpret results, detect cutting edges of the fields, and design new studies. The specificity, complexity, nuance, and diversity inherent within our proposed model await to be more fully revealed.


Notice of Disassociation

A Notice of Disassociation is a request to credit agencies to unlink individuals who are financially linked and demonstrates to potential lenders and creditors that a couple is no longer together. 

To be successful when requesting one of these notices, applicants will need to ensure there is no active financial link between them and their spouse. 

So, for instance, closing any joint bank accounts should be high on your list of priorities, but applying to the credit agency to have that joint account removed from your credit listing will disassociate you from your spouse. 

If the only financial link between two individuals is a joint mortgage, a Notice of Disassociation can be applied for to demonstrate the relationship has ended. 

Bear in mind that a Notice of Dissociation is only likely to be successful if a couple has been living apart for more than six months and has the financial records to prove it – i.e. individual bill payments for different properties. 


No Happy Ending to this story!

In 1912 New Orleans, a girl named Tiana and her friend Charlotte La Bouff listen to Tiana’s mother read the story of The Frog Prince.[5] Charlotte, a believer in true love, finds the story romantic; Tiana declares she will never kiss a frog.

In 1926, Tiana is now an aspiring chef, who works as a hotel maid and a waitress in a local diner, in order to save enough money to open up her own restaurant, a dream she shared with her father, who supposedly died in World War I.

Despite Prince Naveen of Maldonia arriving in New Orleans to better his financial situation, he does nothing to improve it. After being cut off by his parents for being a philanderer and spendthrift, Naveen intends to marry a rich Southern belle, and Charlotte is the perfect candidate. Eli “Big Daddy” La Bouff, a rich sugar baron and Charlotte’s father, hosts a masquerade ball in Naveen’s honor. Charlotte hires Tiana to make beignets for the ball, giving her enough money to buy an old sugar mill to convert into her restaurant. Meanwhile, Naveen and his valet, Lawrence, meet a witch doctor, Dr. Facilier. Inviting them into his emporium, Facilier convinces them that he can make their dreams come true, but neither gets what he expects: Naveen is transformed into a frog while Lawrence, now recruited as Facilier’s henchman, receives a voodoo talisman that gives him Naveen’s appearance. Facilier intends for the transformed Lawrence to marry Charlotte, after which he will kill La Bouff and split his fortune with Lawrence, secretly giving himself the larger sum.

At the ball, Tiana discovers she may lose the mill to a higher bidder. She then meets Naveen, who, believing her to be a princess because of her costume, asks her to kiss him and break Facilier’s spell. In exchange for the money needed, Tiana reluctantly accepts. Still, since she is not an actual princess, she is turned into a frog herself when she kisses Naveen, which also gives her the ability to talk to other animals. A chase ensues, and Tiana and Naveen escape to a bayou. In the bayou, Tiana and Naveen meet a trumpet-playing alligator, Louis, who dreams of playing in a band with humans, but whose ferocious appearance prevents him from doing so. They also meet a Cajun firefly, Ray. Ray believes that the Evening Star is another firefly named “Evangeline,” and is deeply in love with her; no one has the heart to tell him otherwise. Louis and Ray offer to lead Tiana and Naveen to a voodoo queen, Mama Odie, who they believe can undo the curse. During the journey, Tiana and Naveen develop feelings for each other. Meanwhile, Facilier makes a deal with the voodoo spirits (his “friends on the other side”), offering them the souls of the people of New Orleans; in exchange, the spirits grant Facilier the services of a host of shadow demons, whom he orders to find and capture Naveen.

When the four find Mama Odie after escaping from several of the demons and a trio of bumbling frog hunters, she tells them that Naveen must kiss a true princess to break the spell. They return to New Orleans to find Charlotte, the princess of the Mardi Gras Parade, but only until midnight. Naveen tells Ray he loves Tiana and is willing to give up his dreams for her, but before he can, he is captured by the demons and brought to Facilier. After Ray tells Tiana that Naveen loves her, Tiana goes to the parade to confess her love for Naveen, only to find Lawrence, still masquerading as Naveen, marrying Charlotte. Tiana flees, heartbroken. Ray rescues the real Naveen and steals the charm that disguises Lawrence, finds Tiana, and gives her the charm, explaining the deception. He then turns to hold off the demons so she can escape but is mortally wounded by Facilier in the process. Facilier then offers to make Tiana’s restaurant dream come true in exchange for the talisman. Realizing she would rather be with Naveen and recognizing Facilier’s true intentions, Tiana destroys the tailsman by smashing it on the ground. With Facilier’s plan foiled, Tiana watches the angered voodoo spirits drag Facilier and his shadow into the voodoo spirit world for his debts to them, with his frightened expression placed on a tombstone.

As Lawrence is taken away by the police, Naveen explains everything to Charlotte; Tiana and Naveen reveal their love to each other. Charlotte agrees to kiss Naveen so he and Tiana can be together as people, but the clock strikes midnight, and the kiss fails to work. The couple decides they are content to live together as frogs. Ray dies shortly after, and during his funeral, a new star appears next to Evangeline.

Tiana and Naveen are married by Mama Odie and, because of Tiana’s new status as a princess, are both restored to human form after their kiss. Later they return to New Orleans to legally marry and celebrate and open their new restaurant, with Louis playing in the band.

In reality Tiana never had a job and aspired to nothing! She kissed the FROG, abused her husband and everyone else who loved her, left on a plane to the USA leaving a trail of devastation and destruction behind.

She did not live happily ever after!

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