Predators Who Pretend to Be Victims

There’s an additional red flag: When a sob story is routinely linked to a favor. Before her courageous last victim pursued justice (and finally got at least a miniscule part of the justice she deserved), Marianne Smyth convinced friends in Tennessee that she had breast cancer and bilked them out of thousands of dollars for treatment, conned her best friend in California into believing she was being framed for forgery by family members to avoid giving her an inheritance — and forking over almost $100,000 to help her, and filed for a restraining order with false claims of violent threats in an attempt to prevent a witness from testifying against her. 

There are enough genuine victims among us – victims of childhood trauma, domestic abuse, or malignant con artists. We need to support them through their recovery and honor the courage so many show in seeking justice or protecting others from a similar fate. We also need to identify those ill-intentioned individuals who, given half a chance, will use our empathy and compassion against us.

Pretending To Be A VICTIM Again!

New Video EXPOSES Amber For Pretending To Be A VICTIM Again! Amber Heard, while in her best element, pretending to be the most vulnerable person in the world. Back in 2019, celebrities gathered for the Emery Awards, the HMI annual fundraiser, to honor the Justice League actress.

Signaling virtuous victimhood as indicators of Dark Triad personalities.

We investigate the consequences and predictors of emitting signals of victimhood and virtue. In our first three studies, we show that the virtuous victim signal can facilitate nonreciprocal resource transfer from others to the signaler. Next, we develop and validate a victim signaling scale that we combine with an established measure of virtue signaling to operationalize the virtuous victim construct. We show that individuals with Dark Triad traits—Machiavellianism, Narcissism, Psychopathy—more frequently signal virtuous victimhood, controlling for demographic and socioeconomic variables that are commonly associated with victimization in Western societies. In Study 5, we show that a specific dimension of Machiavellianism—amoral manipulation—and a form of narcissism that reflects a person’s belief in their superior prosociality predict more frequent virtuous victim signaling. Studies 3, 4, and 6 test our hypothesis that the frequency of emitting virtuous victim signal predicts a person’s willingness to engage in and endorse ethically questionable behaviors, such as lying to earn a bonus, intention to purchase counterfeit products and moral judgments of counterfeiters, and making exaggerated claims about being harmed in an organizational context. (PsycInfo Database Record (c) 2021 APA, all rights reserved)

Victim playing

Victim playing (also known as playing the victim, victim card, or self-victimization) is the fabrication or exaggeration of victimhood for a variety to reasons such as to justify abuse to others, to manipulate others, a coping strategy, attention seeking or diffusion of responsibility.

Underlying psychology – Victim Playing

Transactional analysis distinguishes real victims from those who adopt the role in bad faith, ignoring their own capacities to improve their situation.[8]Among the predictable interpersonal “games” psychiatrist Eric Berne identified as common among by victim-players are “Look How Hard I’ve Tried” and “Wooden Leg”.[9]

R. D. Laing considered that “it will be difficult in practice to determine whether or to what extent a relationship is collusive” – when “the one person is predominantly the passive ‘victim'”,[10] and when they are merely playing the victim. The problem is intensified once a pattern of victimization has been internalised, perhaps in the form of a double bind.[11]

Object relations theory has explored the way possession by a false self can create a permanent sense of victimisation[12] – a sense of always being in the hands of an external fate.[13]

To break the hold of the negative complex, and to escape the passivity of victimhood, requires taking responsibility for one’s own desires and long-term actions.[14]

What personality disorder plays the victim?

Some people who take on the role of victim might seem to enjoy blaming others for problems they cause, lashing out and making others feel guilty, or manipulating others for sympathy and attention. But, Botnick suggests, toxic behavior like this may be more often associated with narcissistic personality disorder.

Victim Playing for Manipulation

For manipulation

Manipulators often play the victim role (“woe is me”) by portraying themselves as victims of circumstances or someone else’s behavior in order to gain pity or sympathy or to evoke compassion and thereby get something from someone. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering, and the manipulator often finds it easy and rewarding to play on sympathy to get cooperation.[3]

While portraying oneself as a victim can be highly successful in obtaining goals over the short-term, this method tends to be less successful over time:Victims’ talent for high drama draws people to them like moths to a flame. Their permanent dire state brings out the altruistic motives in others. It is difficult to ignore constant cries for help. In most instances, however, the help given is of short duration. And like moths in a flame, helpers quickly get burned; nothing seems to work to alleviate the victims’ miserable situation; there is no movement for the better. Any efforts rescuers make are ignored, belittled, or met with hostility. No wonder that the rescuers become increasingly frustrated — and walk away.[4]

Victim playing

For abuse

Victim playing by abusers is either:[1][2]

It is common for abusers to engage in victim playing. This serves two purposes:

  • Justification, to themselves, in transactional analysis known as existential validation, as a way of dealing with the cognitive dissonance that results from inconsistencies between the way they treat others and what they believe about themselves.
  • Justification to others as a strategy of evading or deflecting harsh judgment or condemnation they may fear from others.

Playing the Victim!

For manipulation

Manipulators often play the victim role (“woe is me”) by portraying themselves as victimsof circumstances or someone else’s behavior in order to gain pity or sympathy or to evoke compassion and thereby get something from someone.

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