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Why You Shouldn’t Undermine Your Partner’s Parenting

Why You Shouldn’t Undermine Your Partner’s Parenting

By SAMANTHA RODMAN, PHD

While writing my upcoming book on divorce, I have reviewed a lot of research on the terrible effects of #parental #alienation (described there by Richard Warshak, author of #Divorce #Poison New and Updated Edition: How to Protect Your Family from #Bad-mouthing and #Brainwashing ), which is when one parent, consciously or unconsciously, destroys the relationship between a child and the other parent. The child is alienated from his parent to the point that he acts viciously hateful to this parent and wants to spend no time together.

Alienation can be accomplished via badmouthing, limiting time together, implications that the co-parent is a bad or scary person, and so forth. Alienation is abetted by the child, who often wants to please a primary caretaker and also has his own unresolved anger and confusion about the divorce. (This situation is different than when a child naturally wants to sever ties with a parent due to the parent being abusive or cruel; however, usually children actually want to stay close to abusive parents.)

http://psychcentral.com/lib/why-you-shouldnt-undermine-your-partners-parenting/00021045

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Parental Alienation Syndrome

What drives a #parental #alienator? Most commonly, some type of #narcissistic #personality features, says Dr. Childress. According to Dr. Childress, parents who indoctrinate children into alienating the other parent are linked to narcissist borderline pathogenic parenting.
Read more at http://www.inquisitr.com/1730517/parental-alienation-syndrome-researchers-say-the-struggle-is-real/#asBxO842tEi4FOzi.99

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The Courts and Parental Alienation

#Parental #alienation – a child’s unwarranted rejection of one parent and strong alignment with the other following high conflict family breakdown – leaves the alienated parent feeling powerless.  Despite recognition in recent high court judgements, it is poorly understood and rarely acknowledged in the British family justice system.

That is the conclusion of research being presented today, Saturday 12 July, by Dr Sue Whitcombe at theannual conference of the #British #Psychological #Society’s Division of Counselling Psychology in London.

Dr Whitcombe conducted research with 54 parents (47 fathers and 7 mothers) who identified themselves as alienated parents. The study identifies these parents’ concerns for their children’s welfare and psychological well-being, and the lack of power they feel in being able to protect them from harm.  Forty two of the parents reported concerns about their child’s mental health.  For 36, a strong concern was evident.

http://www.bps.org.uk/news/courts-and-parental-alienation

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Tales of parental alienation

Tales of parental alienation and a collapsing legal system

Hans Lovejoy

Imagine your relationship has broken down, and there are kids. It’s an all too common occurrence, and if you are lucky to have a reasonable ex-partner, an amicable resolution can be reached.

But those who are not so lucky may find themselves taken to the Federal Circuit Court by an ex-partner, which can cost hundreds of thousands of dollars.

http://www.echo.net.au/2014/12/tales-parental-alienation-collapsing-legal-system/

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You Can’t “Fix” a Psychopath

Good resource for PAS

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PARENTAL ALIENATION IS ANOTHER FORM OF CHILD ABUSE

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The healing power of telling your story.

I started to right a book many years ago but the emotional pain of going through it all again stopped me in my tracks. It will give my children an opportunity to read my side of the story as they have had their memory banks totally erased since the ages of 11 and 13. It wont change anything but I do not believe in staying silent and pretending it has not happened. I am in a good emotional place now to be able to continue with the book with humour and forgiveness which will make for much easier reading.

The Long Term Effects of Parental Alienation

Because telling your story—while being witnessed with loving attention by others who care—may be the most powerful medicine on earth. Each us is a constantly unfolding narrative, a hero in a novel no one else can write. And yet so many of us leave our stories untold, our songs unsung—and when this happens, we wind up feeling lonely, listless, out of touch with our life’s purpose, plagued with a chronic sense that something is out of alignment. We may even wind up feeling unworthy, unloved, or sick.

Every time you tell your story and someone else who cares bears witness to it, you turn off the body’s stress responses, flipping off toxic stress hormones like cortisol and epinephrine and flipping on relaxation responses that release healing hormones like oxytocin, dopamine, nitric oxide, and endorphins. Not only does this turn on the body’s innate self-repair mechanisms and function as preventative medicine—or…

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Family law – equal parenting

Responsible department: Ministry of Justice

The interests of a Child are paramount, & Article 9 of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child states: “Parties shall respect the right of the child who is separated from one or both parents to maintain personal relations and direct contact with both parents on a regular basis”. Evidence presented to the UN by Nancy Faulkner Ph.D simply states that “Parental Child Abduction is Child Abuse”, “#Parental #Alienation” is viewed in the same strong terms by the UN as a form of Child Abuse – UK Law must recognise Parental Child Abduction & Alienation does not necessarily require a Child to be removed from the UK, or even a specific legal jurisdiction within the UK.

The UK signed the Convention on the Rights of a Child in 1992.

http://epetitions.direct.gov.uk/petitions/59827

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PAS to be recognised officially as a medical ‘disease’ or a definable ‘syndrome’ in UK Law

Please sign the e- petition or create a new one to STOP Parental Alienation, unfortunately I cant sign being a French resident.

Please forward these details to as many people as possible who have been affected by Parental Alienation

#Parental #Alienation is a subtle manipulation of the children by one parent who, for their own ends, poisons the children’s minds against the other parent. 24% of UK children have no contact with one of their parents and the primary cause is parental alienation by the resident parent.

http://epetitions.direct.gov.uk/petitions/69126

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Squaring the Circle: Contact Denial as Coercive Control?

What do you do if you are denied any contact details? Address, phone number, email, facebook etc?

Karen Woodall

Since Theresa May’s announcement that men who shout at their wives could face up to 14 years in prison, the issue of coercive control has been in the media.  Launched by a plethora of largely meaningless headlines, the idea that coercive control is a new offence which tightens the net around nasty men, protecting feeble victim women has been on our front pages recently.

Interpreted by women’s groups as being behaviour designed to control women’s freedoms, actually coercive control is defined as follows

Any incident or pattern of incidents of controlling, coercive, threatening behaviour, violence or abuse between those aged 16 or over who are or have been intimate partners or family members regardless of gender or sexuality.

Which pretty much makes this a gender neutral piece of legislation, meaning that it covers the behaviours of both men AND women.  The problem of course is, that any piece of…

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