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Q & A – What is personality disorder pathology?

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Personality disorders are a group of mental health conditions characterized by enduring patterns of behavior, cognition, and inner experience that deviate significantly from cultural expectations and cause distress or impairment in functioning. There are several recognized types of personality disorders, each with its own unique features and diagnostic criteria.

Here is a brief overview of the ten personality disorders as defined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5):

  1. Paranoid Personality Disorder: Characterized by a pervasive distrust and suspicion of others, interpreting their motives as malevolent.
  2. Schizoid Personality Disorder: Marked by detachment from social relationships and a restricted range of emotional expression.
  3. Schizotypal Personality Disorder: Involves eccentric thoughts, behaviors, and appearance, as well as social and interpersonal deficits.
  4. Antisocial Personality Disorder: Associated with a disregard for others’ rights, impulsive and irresponsible behavior, and a lack of empathy or remorse.
  5. Borderline Personality Disorder: Characterized by instability in emotions, self-image, and interpersonal relationships, often accompanied by impulsivity and fear of abandonment.
  6. Histrionic Personality Disorder: Defined by excessive attention-seeking behavior, exaggerated emotions, and a need for constant reassurance and approval.
  7. Narcissistic Personality Disorder: Involves an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy for others.
  8. Avoidant Personality Disorder: Marked by feelings of social inhibition, inadequacy, and hypersensitivity to negative evaluation, leading to avoidance of social interactions.
  9. Dependent Personality Disorder: Characterized by a pervasive reliance on others for decision-making, a fear of abandonment, and difficulty in being alone.
  10. Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder: Involves a preoccupation with orderliness, perfectionism, and control, often at the expense of flexibility and interpersonal relationships.

It’s important to note that personality disorders are complex and can vary in severity and presentation among individuals. Proper diagnosis and treatment are typically provided by mental health professionals, such as psychiatrists or psychologists, through therapy and, in some cases, medication.

 © Linda C J Turner

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Dealing with Website Trolls

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Trolls are individuals who intentionally disrupt online communities by posting inflammatory, off-topic, or provocative messages with the goal of provoking emotional reactions and wasting others’ time. They thrive on creating chaos and inciting arguments, often for their own amusement.

When it comes to websites, trolls may target various platforms such as forums, comment sections, social media, or even chat rooms. They can waste time by engaging in pointless debates, flooding discussions with irrelevant or nonsensical content, or deliberately derailing meaningful conversations.

Dealing with trolls can be frustrating, but it’s essential to remember a few key points:

  1. Ignore and don’t engage: Trolls crave attention and thrive on reactions. By not responding to their provocations, you deny them the satisfaction they seek.
  2. Report and block: Many websites have reporting systems in place to address disruptive behavior. Use these features to notify moderators or administrators about the troll’s actions. Additionally, consider blocking or muting the troll to avoid further interactions.
  3. Maintain a positive environment: Counteract the negative impact of trolls by fostering a supportive and respectful online community. Encourage constructive discussions and discourage engaging with trolls.
  4. Recognize trolls’ tactics: Trolls often employ various tactics to disrupt conversations. These can include personal attacks, spreading misinformation, or using baiting techniques. By recognizing these strategies, you can better avoid falling into their traps.
  5. Educate others: Help raise awareness within the community about the presence of trolls and their intentions. Encourage others not to feed into their behavior and to report any instances of trolling.

Remember, trolls feed off attention, and by denying them that satisfaction, you can help minimize their impact and contribute to a healthier online environment.

 © Linda C J Turner

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[Free Event] Emotional Abuse & Manipulation

Have you or are you currently struggling in an emotionally abusive relationship?

If so, perhaps you feel scared, ashamed, guilty, powerless, hopeless, used, controlled, unwanted, depressed, anxious, numb & more.

If any of this rings true for you, I want you to know that you’re not alone.

It is estimated that 23% of women and 16% of men have experienced emotional abuse from a partner. (And that’s not including emotional abuse from family, friends, colleagues, etc.)

The good news is…help is HERE!

I want to share an amazing opportunity for you to join me for a FREE, AVAIYA University online event that I’m participating in – specifically designed to help you heal your emotional wounds, take your power back & cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself and others!

It’s called Breaking Free From Emotional Abuse & Manipulation and begins June 20th.

This online event is brought to you by iKE ALLEN & Ande Anderson, Co-Owners of AVAIYA University (creators & teachers of transformational courses, books, films and online events such as Overcoming Shame & Guilt, Breaking Free From Toxic Relationships, Healing From Abandonment & Betrayal, and more).

Here’s just some of what you’ll learn from over 30 relationship experts, psychologists, best-selling authors & more:

  • Signs of Emotional Abuse & Manipulation (whether it be with your romantic partner, parents, children, neighbors, colleagues & more)
  • Discover the Hidden Abuses of a Toxic Family: when and how to go no contact and heal your heart.
  • Leaving an Emotionally Abusive Relationship: why giving up hope can be the hardest hurdle.
  • Overcome Attachment Trauma: how to create earned secure attachment if you were raised by narcissistic parents.
  • Heal the Shame You Don’t Deserve after emotional abuse & manipulation, and rebuild your inner-voice.
  • How to Overcome the Pain of Hypervigilance due to Covert Narcissistic Abuse.
  • Boundary Setting with Emotionally Abusive People: reap the benefits of taking your power back & learn to communicate with ease.
  • Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: the essential truth you need to know.
  • Childhood Emotional Enmeshment: learn the impacts, how this leads to a distant adult self & what you can do about it.
  • How to identify & protect yourself from Covert-Aggression, Gaslighting & Deception.
  • Healing attachment style trauma with Bonding Based Lovemaking – a cutting edge approach.
  • Break Generational Chains of emotional abuse & manipulation with vital practices.
  • How to let go of the Toxic Relationship Cycle and cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself and others.
  • How to differentiate love from abuse & learn to identify unhealthy relationship patterns.
  • How to heal by releasing trauma, practicing self-care, learning to trust yourself & honoring your feelings & so much more!

Will you join us?

Mark your calendar and save your spot right here.

After you register, keep an eye out for AVAIYA’s email for specific details on accessing the expert classes. (Replays will be available for 24 hours after each class airs).

It’s your turn to feel empowered & peaceful in your life,

…get started now by registering right here for the Breaking Free From Emotional Abuse & Manipulation online event.

To your healing & healthy relationships,

Linda – Always By Your Side

P.S. Please share the love and forward this email to anyone you think would benefit. Let’s help ourselves and the people we love have healthy, happy relationships! 

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FREE – Global Online Event

Good afternoon

Have you or someone you care about experienced emotional abuse?

Some signs of emotional abuse are:

  • Jealous, possessive behavior
  • Harsh criticism & belittling
  • Shaming & blaming
  • Controlling behaviors & manipulation 
  • Constant arguing or opposing
  • Name-calling & trivializing the other person’s concerns
  • Withholding affection & gaslighting
  • Silent treatment, exploitation, isolating from others & more

If you’ve experienced emotional abuse…you are not alone.

It is estimated that 23% of women and 16% of men have experienced emotional abuse from a partner. (And that’s not including emotional abuse from family, friends, colleagues, etc.)

I have a life-changing opportunity to share with you. I highly recommend you join me for this FREE online event from AVAIYA University:

Breaking Free From Emotional Abuse & Manipulation 

This online event is brought to you by iKE ALLEN & Ande Anderson, Co-Owners of AVAIYA University (creators & teachers of transformational courses, books, films and online events such as Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse, Healing From Childhood Trauma, Breaking Free From Abandonment, and many more).

Beginning June 20th, over 30 relationship experts, therapists, doctors and more will help you heal your emotional wounds, take your power back & cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself and others!

I am honoured to be a featured speaker during this 7-day immersion event, talking about Breaking Free From Emotional Abuse & Manipulation -Parental Alienation.

Click here to save your spot for this life-changing online event now. 

Here is the lineup of other teachers speaking during the online event:

Dr. Margaret Paul, Rebecca Zung, Kyle Benson, Julie Hall, Dr. Joe Rubino, Dr. Ameet Aggarwal, Renee Swanson, KP Khalsa, Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, Danu Morrigan, Stacy Hoch, Dave Berger, Ronia Fraser, Scott Kiloby, Dr. Sherrie Campbell, Dr. Raja Selvam, Annie Kaszina, Rachel Grant, Carolin Hauser, Karen McMahon, Stacy Brookman, Marquita Johnson, Julie Schiffman, Rhonda Noordyk, Leah Marie Mazur,  & more.

After you register, keep an eye out for AVAIYA’s email for specific details on accessing these free classes. (Replays will be available for 24 hours after each class airs).

To your emotional healing,

Linda C J Turner 

http://LindaCJTurner.com

http://Parentalalienationpas.com

P.S. Please forward this email to anyone you think would benefit from these transformational classes. Thank you for sharing!

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Q & A -Conspiring with others to reinforce the programming

"The Monkeys caught Dorothy in their arms and flew away with her."

In cases of severe parental alienation, it is not uncommon for the alienating parent to conspire with others to reinforce the programming or manipulation of the child. This can involve enlisting the support of family members, friends, or other individuals who are close to the child or have influence over them.

Conspiring with others serves to validate and reinforce the alienating parent’s narrative and actions, making it more difficult for the child to question or resist the alienation. Some ways in which conspiring can occur include:

  1. Spreading false information: The alienating parent may involve others in spreading false information or negative narratives about the targeted parent. This can involve sharing distorted stories, making false accusations, or manipulating facts to paint the targeted parent in a negative light.
  2. Aligning perspectives: The alienating parent may actively seek out individuals who share their negative views of the targeted parent and encourage the child to spend time with these individuals. This creates an echo chamber of negativity and reinforces the alienating messages the child receives.
  3. Limiting contact with supportive individuals: The alienating parent may try to limit the child’s contact with individuals who may offer a different perspective or challenge the alienation. This can include restricting access to extended family members, therapists, or friends who may provide a supportive and balanced environment for the child.

Conspiring with others to reinforce the programming can further isolate the child and make it more difficult for them to break free from the alienation.

 © Linda C J Turner

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Q & A – Revising history to erase positive memories

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Revising history to erase positive memories is a behavior commonly observed in cases of parental alienation. The alienating parent may engage in tactics aimed at distorting or erasing positive memories that the child has with the targeted parent. These tactics can include:

  1. Denial or dismissal: The alienating parent may deny or dismiss positive experiences or memories that the child has with the targeted parent. They may downplay or discredit any positive interactions or events that occurred between the child and the targeted parent.
  2. Fabrication of negative narratives: The alienating parent may create false or exaggerated negative stories or events about the targeted parent, which can overshadow and distort the positive memories the child has. They may invent false accusations, incidents, or behaviors to tarnish the image of the targeted parent in the child’s mind.
  3. Negative reinforcement: The alienating parent may consistently reinforce negative views or attitudes towards the targeted parent, emphasizing any perceived flaws or mistakes and minimizing any positive aspects. This ongoing negative reinforcement can shape the child’s perception of the targeted parent and diminish the importance of positive memories.

By revising history and erasing positive memories, the alienating parent aims to create a narrative that aligns with their agenda of alienating the child from the targeted parent. It is a manipulative tactic that can contribute to the deterioration of the parent-child relationship and further entrench the alienation dynamics.

Recognizing and addressing this behavior is crucial for the well-being of the child and the restoration of a healthy parent-child bond. It requires intervention from mental health professionals experienced in parental alienation to help the child process and navigate the manipulation, restore accurate memories, and foster healthy relationships based on truth and authenticity.

 © Linda C J Turner

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Q & A – What is illusory truth effect?

Repeating false ideas can indeed have an impact on memory and perception. The more a false idea or belief is repeated, the more likely it is for it to be perceived as true and potentially embedded in memory. This phenomenon is known as the illusory truth effect or the reiteration effect.

The illusory truth effect suggests that familiarity and repetition can lead individuals to perceive information as more valid or true, even if it is false. This effect occurs because the brain tends to rely on heuristics or mental shortcuts to process information, and repeated exposure to a particular idea can create a sense of familiarity and credibility.

When false ideas are repeatedly presented, they can become more accessible in memory, making it easier for individuals to recall and believe them. This can occur even if the information contradicts objective evidence or facts.

It is important to be cautious about the repetition of false ideas and to critically evaluate information from reliable and credible sources. Engaging in critical thinking, fact-checking, and seeking multiple perspectives can help guard against the influence of false or misleading information and prevent the formation of inaccurate beliefs or memories.

 © Linda C J Turner

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The “pseudomature” child and the “entitlement monster.”

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Hotchkiss discusses two types of children affected by narcissistic parenting: the “pseudomature” child and the “entitlement monster.”

  1. Pseudomature child: According to Hotchkiss, the pseudomature child is a product of narcissistic parenting and may appear to have skipped over typical childhood experiences. They are forced to mature prematurely and develop a false self that appears more competent than they actually are. This false self is often a result of adapting to the needs and expectations of the emotionally bankrupt parent, rather than being able to develop their own authentic self.
  2. Entitlement monster: The entitlement monster is described as being held captive in the parent’s narcissistic bubble. This term suggests that the child is excessively entitled and may display behaviors and attitudes of entitlement, possibly due to the reinforcement and validation they receive from the narcissistic parent. They may lack empathy and have difficulty understanding the needs and perspectives of others.

Both the pseudomature child and the entitlement monster are thought to have difficulties separating from their emotionally bankrupt parent and may struggle to develop their own independent identity. Their behaviors and self-perceptions are influenced by the narcissistic parent’s needs and expectations, rather than being based on their true selves.

Reference from Hotchkiss (2003, pp. 56-57).

 © Linda C J Turner

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Q & A – Signs of Severely alienated children

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Severely alienated children may exhibit various psychological signs and behaviors as a result of the ongoing manipulation and negative influence they experience. These signs and behaviors can vary in severity and can manifest differently in each child. Here are some common psychological signs and behaviors associated with severely alienated children:

  1. Rejection or hostility towards the targeted parent: The child may express consistent and unwarranted rejection, hatred, or extreme hostility towards the targeted parent. They may refuse contact, deny a relationship, or speak negatively about the parent without genuine justification.
  2. Unwavering support for the alienating parent: The child may align strongly with the alienating parent, showing unwavering loyalty and defense towards them. They may adopt the alienating parent’s perspectives and beliefs as their own, even when they are irrational or baseless.
  3. Lack of ambivalence or guilt: Severely alienated children often show a complete absence of mixed feelings or guilt about their treatment of the targeted parent. They may dismiss any positive memories or experiences they had with the targeted parent and refuse to acknowledge any wrongdoing or negative impact.
  4. Lack of empathy: The child may demonstrate a limited ability to empathize with the targeted parent’s emotions or experiences. They may show little concern for the distress caused by their rejection or participate in the emotional manipulation of the alienating parent.
  5. Parroting and rehearsed responses: Severely alienated children may use scripted language or rehearsed responses when discussing the targeted parent or the reasons for their rejection. They may display a lack of independent thought or critical thinking when discussing the situation.
  6. Fear of abandonment or punishment: The child may exhibit a fear of abandonment or punishment from the alienating parent if they were to show any positive feelings or maintain a relationship with the targeted parent. This fear can contribute to their compliance with the alienation dynamics.

It is important to note that not all children who experience parental alienation will exhibit all of these signs and behaviors. The severity and manifestation of these indicators can vary depending on individual circumstances and the duration and intensity of the alienation.

 © Linda C J Turner

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Q & A – The alienator is in denial?

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It is indeed a challenging aspect of severe parental alienation that when a child engages in self-harm behaviors, such as “head-banging” or self-mutilation, the targeted parent may be wrongly accused of lying or exaggerating by the alienating parent or others involved. This situation further complicates the already difficult dynamics and can hinder the child’s access to appropriate support and intervention.

In cases of severe parental alienation, the alienating parent may actively dismiss or deny the child’s self-harming behaviors as a means to protect their own image and discredit the targeted parent. This can cause significant distress for the targeted parent, as their concerns for the child’s well-being may not be taken seriously.

When faced with such a situation, it is important for the targeted parent to document and record evidence of the child’s self-harm behaviors, seek professional help, and communicate their concerns to mental health practitioners or other relevant professionals involved in the case. This can help ensure that the child receives the necessary support and intervention to address their emotional and psychological needs.

Additionally, it is important for the professionals involved to carefully evaluate the situation, consider all available information, and prioritize the child’s well-being when assessing the allegations made by both parents. Professional expertise, thorough assessments, and unbiased evaluations are crucial in addressing the complexities of severe parental alienation and protecting the best interests of the child involved.

 © Linda C J Turner