Q & A – I am looking for estranged child support group

I’m sorry to hear that you’re dealing with estrangement from your child. It can be a difficult and painful experience.

There are many support groups available for parents who are estranged from their children. These groups can provide a safe and supportive space for you to share your experiences, connect with others who are going through similar situations, and receive emotional support.

Here are some resources you might find helpful:

  1. Stand Alone – a UK-based charity that provides support and resources for adults who are estranged from their families.
  2. Parents of Estranged Adult Children – a private Facebook group where parents can connect with others who are experiencing estrangement from their adult children.
  3. Reddit – there are several subreddits dedicated to estrangement and family relationships, including r/estrangedadultchild and r/parentingestrangedchildren.
  4. Therapy – working with a therapist or counselor can also be helpful for processing the emotions surrounding estrangement and developing coping strategies.

Remember, it’s important to take care of yourself during this difficult time. Seeking out support and finding ways to cope can help you navigate this challenging experience.

©Linda Turner 2023


What evidence can I send to prove that I am estranged from my parents?

You must provide a letter or statement from an independent person with good standing in the community, such as a professional person, which confirms you are irreconcilably estranged from your parents.

You must have had no contact with either parent for at least 12 months, although exceptions can be considered to this timeframe, to be deemed as irreconcilably estranged from your parents. Just living apart from them or their unwillingness to provide their information on your application will not be considered.

This independent person should have known you and your circumstances for a substantial amount of time, however must not be a relation or close friend of the family.

The letter or statement should be on headed paper and include the following information about the independent person;

  • Their full name 
  • Their job title
  • Their contact details
  • The capacity in which they know you
  • How long they have known you
  • How long you have been estranged from your parents and how long they have been aware of the circumstances regarding the estrangement

What is legal estrangement from parents UK?

You must have had no contact with either parent for at least 12 months, although exceptions can be considered to this timeframe, to be deemed as irreconcilably estranged from your parents. Just living apart from them or their unwillingness to provide their information on your application will not be considered.

Parental Alienation PA

Parents Cut Off by Adult Children

In the newspaper advice column Annie’s Mailbox by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, there has recently been a series of letters from the parents of adult children who have cut them out of their lives. The parents complain that they have absolutely no idea why and do not understand what made this happen, and they seem to indicate that they had been just model parents or, at worst, guilty of some very minor parental transgressions.

Lately, a couple of other letter writers opined that just perhaps the parental behavior was a lot more problematic than these folks would have the world believe. For the most part, whenever I delve into the family dynamics of those patients who either cut off parents or who have been cut off like this, that is almost always the case.

In reading the letters from the parents who just cannot seem to figure out why their children have cut them off, a question arises. Are they really that clueless? Are they, as people are wont to say “in denial?” – whatever that means?  To me, “denial” of reality is just – how should I put this? – lying.

Parents Cut Off by Adult Children

Parental Alienation PA

Eulalio Tordil allegedly shoots his estranged wife and then tries to provoke ‘suicide by cop’

Gladys Tordil, 44, a high school teacher in Prince George’s County, Maryland, filed a protective order against her husband, Eulalio Tordil, 62, in March. She alleged that he subjected her children to “intense-military-like discipline” and physically abused one child for over a decade. She said he threatened to harm her if she left him, and owned multiple guns.

read the full article here:-



When Parents Hurt

Worth a read. A good article which finally concludes that it’s not always the parents that are to blame but that children can grow up with ‘you didn’t put me first when society tells me I should be the centre of your universe and everyone else’s!’ attitude. Some recognition here that parents do not need more child guidance advice. They need help with coping with the blame their child dishes out.


When Children Cut Off Their Parents

Another good article written from the perspective of an estranged parent.





An alienated parent inspired

An alienated parent inspired

I had a moment of inspiration last week after 25 years of soul searching.

I am currently reading a book by Neale Donald Walsch called “What GOD said”. I have read many of his books and they have helped me reach where I am today. There is a passage in the book that asks you to think of a question where you have been searching for an answer for a very long time. Well you can guess what my question was

“Why is this happening to me and how do I deal with it in the long term”?

The writer of the book suggested that you ask yourself the question with a honest open non judgemental mind and the answer will come to you before you have even had chance to put the question down on paper. Sure enough, it happened, just like Neale Donald Walsch said, instant!!!

My answer was :

Your children love you and always will!!!

They are unfortunate enough to have been caught up in their father’s drama and Narcissic world.

They are not strong enough to make their own decisions about what they want to do,

they can do nothing, they don’t know how to??

Sit back and be happy in the knowledge that they love you in their own way and always will and be grateful for that. ……….

It is a good enough answer for me and I feel relief, gratitude and acceptance that after all the reading and research and finally asking myself the question that I had the answer within myself all the time.

It just took a little time for it to come to me! hallelujah

Love Yourself