Q & A – I am looking for estranged child support group

I’m sorry to hear that you’re dealing with estrangement from your child. It can be a difficult and painful experience.

There are many support groups available for parents who are estranged from their children. These groups can provide a safe and supportive space for you to share your experiences, connect with others who are going through similar situations, and receive emotional support.

Here are some resources you might find helpful:

  1. Stand Alone – a UK-based charity that provides support and resources for adults who are estranged from their families.
  2. Parents of Estranged Adult Children – a private Facebook group where parents can connect with others who are experiencing estrangement from their adult children.
  3. Reddit – there are several subreddits dedicated to estrangement and family relationships, including r/estrangedadultchild and r/parentingestrangedchildren.
  4. Therapy – working with a therapist or counselor can also be helpful for processing the emotions surrounding estrangement and developing coping strategies.

Remember, it’s important to take care of yourself during this difficult time. Seeking out support and finding ways to cope can help you navigate this challenging experience.

©Linda Turner 2023


What evidence can I send to prove that I am estranged from my parents?

You must provide a letter or statement from an independent person with good standing in the community, such as a professional person, which confirms you are irreconcilably estranged from your parents.

You must have had no contact with either parent for at least 12 months, although exceptions can be considered to this timeframe, to be deemed as irreconcilably estranged from your parents. Just living apart from them or their unwillingness to provide their information on your application will not be considered.

This independent person should have known you and your circumstances for a substantial amount of time, however must not be a relation or close friend of the family.

The letter or statement should be on headed paper and include the following information about the independent person;

  • Their full name 
  • Their job title
  • Their contact details
  • The capacity in which they know you
  • How long they have known you
  • How long you have been estranged from your parents and how long they have been aware of the circumstances regarding the estrangement

What is legal estrangement from parents UK?

You must have had no contact with either parent for at least 12 months, although exceptions can be considered to this timeframe, to be deemed as irreconcilably estranged from your parents. Just living apart from them or their unwillingness to provide their information on your application will not be considered.


To my father, and to every alienator

How beautifully written from the heart

“For now, my father, and every alienator, you are existing in a swath of protection, in a lie that tells you that you have won, that you are right. But that lie is fragile and weak and thin, and it covers your heart where the truth resides. That is what you don’t know; you don’t know the cost of being right, of winning.

I take comfort in knowing the truth. I have suffered great blows to my sense of self, but I love that I am a truth seeker. I am grateful that I am strong enough to face what is real.

I grew up afraid of you because I didn’t know then how weak and scared you really are. If you allow yourself to break apart, to see the truth, I will not say I told you so. Someday, maybe not in this lifetime, I will see the real you and I will recognize you as love.”
I am sure there are many of us out there that know an alienator similar to this – thank you for speaking your truth



Memories of an Alienated Daughter

Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” -Jesus

I know that no one is born revengeful or angry. I believe that people enter life as love.

I know that you were abused by your father, who was likely abused by his and so on. I know that his words probably did more damage than his fist- the way he told you that you were worthless, incapable, nothing. He didn’t see you, not really. He told you a lie.

I know that he abused your mother, my grandmother. She told me about the time when you were a teen and had enough of his wrath. The time, the hundredth time, he banged his fist and stood up at the dinner table; something trivial triggered his rage and when he leaned toward your mother, you stood to protect her.  You ran to grab the ax used for…

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Alienation Estrangement

You dont choose estrangement!

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Done With The Crying-by Sheri McGregor M.A. (Author)

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Are you a victim? Do you want to stay that way?

While it’s true that many parents of estranged adults have been victimized, that doesn’t mean a parent must remain a victim. This moves us to the third category of coping I’ve created here:Successful participation.

None of these conscious coping strategies is wrong, but consider which one appeals to you.How have you coped in the past? How do you want to cope?

It’s up to each of us to decide whether we will learn to cope in practical ways that help us get past the pain, foster our growth, and advance us forward in our own happy lives.

read the full article on this website:-Are you a victim? Do you want to stay that way?

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Family estrangement is the physical and or emotional distancing between at least two family members in an arrangement which is considered unsatisfactory by at least one involved party. Family estrangements can be attributed to any of several factors within the family, such as attachment disorders, differing values and beliefs, disappointment, major life events or change, parental alienation, or poor communication.[1] In one typical scenario, an adult child shuns his or her parents and possibly other family members as the adult child transitions into adulthood. In another scenario, an intolerant parent might cast out an adult child because of life choices. In either case, the family estrangement may create an intergenerational rift that persists for decades and replicates itself in subsequent generations

Estrangement is synonymous with alienation: the replacement of love, affection, or friendliness with enmity, cruelty, or indifference.[2]

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Darker Side of the Sun

Stephanie could never have imagined the nightmare that lay ahead when she agrees to leave England and move to Australia with her Australian husband.

Unaware of his double life and the secret plans he has made to isolate her from her family and friends, she is duped into leaving everything she knows, thinking they are embarking on a new start together. But in Australia her husband changes into a controlling stranger before suddenly disappearing, leaving her unaware of the devious plans he has made.

Staying completely invisible he begins a terrifying campaign to force her into such a desperate situation that she will sign everything they own over to him; leaving her destitute and with no way back to England. He nearly cripples her in a boating incident and tampers with her car, forcing her to drive across three lanes of peak hour traffic to avoid a collision. He even destroys her credibility in the eyes of her family. When Stephanie still refuses to give in, he recruits someone else to carry out his plans under the cover of darkness.

Living in the shadows and forced to sleep in her car, Stephanie slowly begins to turn the tables. Then she comes face to face with a staggering revelation that turns her nightmare into reality.

About the Author:
Nina S. Wornham grew up in the Lake District of England and currently lives on the edge of the Cotswolds. She is also writing a novel titled A Devious Truth. Darker Side of the Sun is based upon her own real-life experiences.

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Hiding from the TRUTH – Parental alienation

Hiding from the TRUTH

Sitting in the garden, sun shining. Cleaner has just been, house is gleaming ready for my friend arriving tomorrow.

Just painting my toe nails ready for a few girly nights out – Party on!

Looking at Buddha for inspiration I had to ask myself many questions:-

  1. why would my two adult children block me on every social network they belong to but allow total strangers in?
  2. why would they move house and not tell me where they are?
  3. why would they not respond to any phone calls or emails?
  4. why would they not respond to any cards or gifts I had sent?
  5. why when I did have contact with my daughter was there not a photograph of me in sight?
  6. why when I asked to see all the family photo’s my daughter said her father had destroyed every single one of them including the baby photos?
  7. why when I asked my children to try and remember the good times, holidays, Christmas etc they could not recall anything?
  8. why don’t they contact any their other family members, uncles, cousins aunts?
  9. why do they hide away like two criminals?
  10. why when nothing tragic has happened do they behave in this way?

Then I asked myself the same questions:

  1. My social networks are open for them both to see and contact me.
  2. I even print my phone number and email address on the front page so they can find me easily
  3. They can phone me, call me or email whenever they like
  4. I would at least have the courtesy and good manners to thank them for a gift or card
  5. I have photos all around my house of my son, daughter and family
  6. I have a couple of school photos left but sadly nothing to show the grandchildren – no baby photos!
  7. I have very fond memories of many family holidays and Christmas, no one can take your memories away!
  8. I contact all of my family and my husbands on a regular basis to enquire how they are
  9. I do not hide away from anyone! I have nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to hide!
  10. It is not normal behavior from well-balanced adults!

The only conclusion I can come to is that they are hiding from themselves, their friends and family from the TRUTH!!!!