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Q & A – The roots of Parental Alienation

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Parental alienation is indeed often associated with intolerance, denigration, prejudice, and deep-seated dysfunction within family dynamics. It is a complex issue that can arise in high-conflict separations or divorces, where one parent engages in behavior that undermines the child’s relationship with the other parent. This behavior can include denigrating the other parent, restricting contact or visitation, spreading false information, or manipulating the child’s emotions.

The roots of parental alienation can be multifaceted and influenced by various factors. Here are some key elements that can contribute to its development:

  1. Intolerance and Denigration: The alienating parent may harbor intense negative feelings towards the other parent, often stemming from unresolved conflicts, resentment, or personal issues. They may actively denigrate the other parent, portraying them in a negative light to the child and fostering an environment of hostility and animosity.
  2. Prejudice and Bias: Prejudice or bias against the targeted parent can exacerbate the alienating behavior. This bias may arise from factors such as cultural or societal beliefs, personal experiences, or the influence of family and friends who share similar views.
  3. Deep-Seated Dysfunction: Parental alienation is commonly associated with dysfunctional family dynamics, including high-conflict relationships, emotional instability, and unresolved issues between the parents. These dysfunctional patterns can contribute to the alienating parent’s motivations and behaviors.
  4. Emotional Insecurity: The alienating parent may harbor deep-seated emotional insecurities, such as fear of abandonment, a desire for control, or a need to maintain power and influence within the family dynamic. Alienating the child from the other parent can provide a sense of validation or security for the alienating parent.

It’s important to note that parental alienation is a complex phenomenon, and the causes and dynamics can vary from case to case. Addressing parental alienation requires a comprehensive approach, involving the collaboration of mental health professionals, family law specialists, and the legal system to assess the situation, provide support to the affected individuals, and work towards solutions that prioritize the child’s well-being.

 © Linda C J Turner

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Q & A – Do alienating parents use perspecticide?

Yes, alienating parents can use perspecticide as a tool in their efforts to alienate a child from the other parent. By systematically controlling and distorting the child’s perception of the other parent and their relationship, the alienating parent can create a false reality for the child, causing them to lose their own perspective and sense of self.

Some common tactics used by alienating parents to achieve perspecticide may include:

  • Denigrating the other parent: The alienating parent may consistently denigrate the other parent in front of the child, making derogatory comments or presenting a distorted picture of the other parent’s behavior or character.
  • Isolating the child: The alienating parent may limit the child’s contact with the other parent, and may discourage or forbid the child from talking about the other parent or spending time with them.
  • Controlling information: The alienating parent may control the information that the child receives about the other parent, presenting a distorted or incomplete picture of reality.
  • Creating a false narrative: The alienating parent may create a false narrative about the other parent and their relationship, presenting the other parent as abusive, neglectful, or otherwise unworthy of the child’s affection.

Over time, these tactics can cause the child to develop a distorted and negative perception of the other parent, leading to alienation and a breakdown in the parent-child relationship.

It’s important to note that the use of perspecticide by an alienating parent can have serious and long-lasting effects on a child’s mental health and well-being, and can contribute to a range of emotional and behavioral problems. If you suspect that a child is being subjected to perspecticide or parental alienation, it’s important to seek the advice of a qualified mental health professional or family law attorney.

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Q & A – Can my child understand Parental Alienation?

Children as young as nine years old have the capacity for retaliatory decision-making, meaning they are capable of making decisions about how to respond to perceived wrongdoings or injustices. Research has shown that by age nine, children have developed a sense of fairness and are able to understand when they have been treated unfairly.

Studies have also found that children as young as six years old can engage in cooperative behavior and show concern for the well-being of others. However, their ability to make complex decisions, including those related to retaliation, may still be developing.

It is important to note that each child develops at their own pace, and individual differences in cognitive, social, and emotional development can impact their decision-making abilities. Additionally, the context in which a child is making a decision can also play a role in their response. Factors such as the severity of the perceived wrongdoing, the social norms of their environment, and the presence of supportive adults can all influence a child’s decision-making process.

©Linda Turner http://parentalalienationpas.com 2023

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Where to find someone?

Finding a qualified mental health professional who has experience in dealing with parental alienation can be a challenging task. Here are some suggestions on where to look:

  1. Referrals from family law attorneys: Family law attorneys who have experience working with parental alienation cases may have contacts with mental health professionals who specialize in this area. They can provide you with a list of qualified professionals who have experience working with families affected by parental alienation.
  2. Referrals from support groups: Support groups for families affected by parental alienation may also have recommendations for mental health professionals who have experience working with this issue. These groups may be found online or in-person in your local community.
  3. Online directories: There are online directories that specialize in helping individuals find mental health professionals with experience in treating parental alienation. Examples include the National Parental Alienation Directory and the Parental Alienation Institute.
  4. Professional associations: Professional associations such as the American Psychological Association, National Association of Social Workers, or the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy may have directories of qualified mental health professionals who specialize in family therapy and have experience working with parental alienation.
  5. Personal referrals: You may also ask for referrals from trusted friends, family members, or healthcare providers who may have had experience with a qualified mental health professional who specializes in parental alienation.

It is important to note that finding the right mental health professional for your specific needs and situation may take some time and research. It is essential to seek out someone who has experience and training in working with parental alienation, and who you feel comfortable working with.

©Linda Turner http://parentalalienationpas.com 2023

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The Alienator – exterminator

 

The alienator will exterminate your family and isolate you so there is no outside influence.

They will exterminate your own friends and choose friends for you who they can control, they will recruit their flying monkeys to be your friends.

They will make sure your therapist is their choice not yours, someone they can manipulate and win over. They may even discourage you from seeing a therapist so the truth isn’t revealed.

They will try to stop information from schools and doctors so no one is aware of what they are doing to you.

They will make sure that you are never alone with anyone that may influence you.

You will be left isolated and controlled until you cannot think for yourself.

This is the alienator, the exterminator.

 

Linda – Always By Your Side

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Unlocking the Secrets of the Wounded Psyche

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Daniela Sieff interviews Jungian analyst Donald Kalsched about the survival system a child develops to protect him or herself from psychological wounding, and discovers how that survival system can cause more damage than the original wound.

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Is it an offence to waste police time?

Wasting police time

Under s 5(2) of the Criminal Law Act 1967 (CLA 1967), it is an offence to cause a wasteful employment of the police by knowingly making a false report – either orally or in writing – to the police or anyone else that:

  • an offence has been committed;
  • there is a real threat to the safety of any persons or property; or
  • they have relevant information concerning some police enquiry.

Proceedings for this offence can be brought only by (or with the consent of) the Director of Public Prosecutions. It is a summary only offence and proceedings must be started within the six-month summary time limit. This is from the date on which the complaint was made, not from when the falseness of the allegation was suspected or uncovered.

Penalty

If you are caught wasting police time you could be jailed for up to six months and/or fined. Instead of taking you to court, the police might issue you with a fixed penalty notice under the Criminal Justice and Police Act 2001 (CJPA 2001). This means you will have to pay a £90 fine but you won’t get a criminal conviction (the details will still go on the police computer though).

Related offences

Perverting the course of justice

If a false report you made has particularly serious consequences, the police could charge you with perverting the course of justice instead, which carries a maximum penalty of life imprisonment. Police are more likely to charge you with this more serious offence, rather than wasting police time if:

  • the false report was motivated by malice;
  • you continued to stick to your false story, even when there were ample opportunities to retract;
  • you falsely accused someone of a crime and they were charged and remanded in custody or tried, convicted and / or sentenced;
  • the person you falsely accused suffered major damage to their reputation;
  • you have a history and/or previous convictions of making false reports.

Wasting police time

Under s 5(2) of the Criminal Law Act 1967 (CLA 1967), it is an offence to cause a wasteful employment of the police by knowingly making a false report – either orally or in writing – to the police or anyone else that:

  • an offence has been committed;
  • there is a real threat to the safety of any persons or property; or
  • they have relevant information concerning some police enquiry.

Proceedings for this offence can be brought only by (or with the consent of) the Director of Public Prosecutions. It is a summary only offence and proceedings must be started within the six-month summary time limit. This is from the date on which the complaint was made, not from when the falseness of the allegation was suspected or uncovered.

Penalty

If you are caught wasting police time you could be jailed for up to six months and/or fined. Instead of taking you to court, the police might issue you with a fixed penalty notice under the Criminal Justice and Police Act 2001 (CJPA 2001). This means you will have to pay a £90 fine but you won’t get a criminal conviction (the details will still go on the police computer though).

Related offences

Perverting the course of justice

If a false report you made has particularly serious consequences, the police could charge you with perverting the course of justice instead, which carries a maximum penalty of life imprisonment. Police are more likely to charge you with this more serious offence, rather than wasting police time if:

  • the false report was motivated by malice;
  • you continued to stick to your false story, even when there were ample opportunities to retract;
  • you falsely accused someone of a crime and they were charged and remanded in custody or tried, convicted and / or sentenced;
  • the person you falsely accused suffered major damage to their reputation;
  • you have a history and/or previous convictions of making false reports.

 

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Should mediation be compulsory in some family cases?

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‘In England and Wales we have already embraced the concept of requiring one of the parties to take the preliminary step of attending a MIAM. Whilst this is one important step short of embarking upon mediation itself, it could be argued that the justice system has already extended itself into this space and any further development is a matter of degree rather than principle. In circumstances where, as I have suggested, the current MIAM scheme is not working as intended, there is a need to consider making changes.’

https://transparencyproject.org.uk/the-relaunch-of-family-mediation/

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